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How do you stay positive? Tricks? Tips?

My gramma bought me a book by Norman Vincent Peale entitled "The Power of Positive Thinking"... I have read countless work by Louise L. Hay, Wayne Dyer, Rhonda Byrne, Marianne Williamson, Cheryl Richardson, etc. that all carry the same message: Think positive. Visualize what you want as though you already have it (manifest). Use positive affirmations. Express gratitutde in all that you do. Create your own reality with positive thoughts. Doubt and fear will create pain and suffering, and block good things from happening. Choosing a positive response instead of a negative reaction makes you happy.

Wayne Dyer was diagnosed with lieukemia. He claims to be healed from it now (through the power of positive thinking. His daugher healed herself of flat warts all over her face by praying and talking to the warts, thanking them for being with her, and releasing them... um... sounds kinda far fetched, right? BUT there are many documented cases of people who were diagnosed with terminal diseases who suddenly heal. There are miracles happening every day. We don't have an explanation for all of them... but that doesn't mean that there isn't one.

How strong is the mind-body connection? I don't believe that I am causing IF with my mind power, nor that I can suddenly heal whatever is going on in our bodies with a few positive affirmations... BUT... part of me is very interested in this "power" of postiive thinking and I completely recognize that patients going through chemo generally do better if they have a positive outlook... even when given the same protocol as their grouchy neighbour. I'm using positive guided visualizations, reading books about the mind-body connection, doing daily meditations, avoiding the websites with the IVF-gone-bad-horror-stories, avoiding upsetting news media, surrounding myself with positive messages and affirmations, and clearing some space for the baby by selling a bunch of my stuff that I have in storage.

Well, I started to bleed yesterday (very light) and it is continuing today. I feel a bit more "normal" now (my doctor told me to expect bleeding once coming off the Apri). I had read horror stories about women being "oversuppressed" and having to cancel cycles... I'm not sure why but somehow magically in my head I was connecting a lack of bleeding to evidence of oversuppression, and plotting out the demise of my cycle. Must. Stop. Negative. Thingking. !!! Thank you for the bleeding, thank you for the confirmation that I am "normal"...

I keep catching myself allowing doubt to creep into my brain space. I need to reframe and stay positive and not fall into the trap of self-pity or despair during this critical time. One of the ladies on my FB support group posted:

"Miracles are on the horizon! Can you see them coming? Or have do you have doubt in your heart? Chose to get refocused tonight and chose to BELIEVE with your whole being that God loves you and is working things out for you right now!"

I'm going to borrow some of her positive energy to get me through today, until I've built up my stores again and can be a bit more Pollyanna-ish myself.

I hope that each of you has a positive light to draw into yourselves when times get tough or the meds turn you into a raging maniac... and know that you can be that positive light for others to draw upon when they are feeling down.