snowbaby

I'm not sure what to do. My dd has a friend who lately has been , hmmm what's a good word to use here, childish. Yes, I realize that she is a child, but she certainly is not behaving appropriately for a girl of 9.

This morning, dd had two friends over. They both wanted to play with her new barbie. They fought over it, and finally both girls went home, ticked cause neither one was willing to compramise. My dd ended up crying because her friends left. They came back later and played nicely before lunch. The girl asked dd to ask me if she could sleep over. I said no. They played until lunch, left for lunch. They came back and played more after lunch. DD came up and asked me again if the girl could sleep over, I said no, AGAIN, and to please stop asking me. About an hour later, she came back AGAIN and asked me again. I told her NO again and gave her heck for asking after I had told her to stop. She went down to the toy room and told her I said no. The girl got mad at dd and said you always let S sleep over but never let me sleep over, to my dd. She came stomping up the stairs, kicked the cats food dish all over the floor, and slammed the front door so hard, the picture on the wall fell and the glass in the frame shattered.

I'd had enough. When I cleaned up the mess, and took ds outside, I informed the girl that I had told dd no to the sleep over, and that dd had gotten in trouble because she kept pushing her to ask over and over. I also told her that if she cannot remember her manners when in my home, she will not be allowed in my home. She stomped, and said I'm going to tell my mother your being mean to me. I told her to go ahead, I was already planning to speak to her mother about the cat food and the picture frame anyways.

I spoke to her parent, and got "oh, sorry about that". They didn't speak to her at all about it. Apparently, when dh was outside with ds, this same girl told dd that since she only wanted to play with T and not with E, that my dd couldn't play with either T or E if she was really her friend.

Ok, I've had enough of this. She is behaving like a two year old. What is it with this kid??? What is it with her parents?? Do this put up with this at home?? How frustrating this is for me and my dd, I can only imagine what home for the parents and 3 other siblings must be like when she doesn't get her own way.

Am I being judgemental here? Eiy yi yi!! What can I do better here???

I need a parents manual, somebody??? Anybody????