MareRI

My dh's brother is a shallow, jealous man...always has been always will be. We deal with it. His wife is pretty close to the same. They hate when anyone gets more attention than them or their kids. They thrive on being the center of attention. When they got married I was 34 weeks pg with my 1st and I tried to downplay it so as not to take attention away from them ...

When I was pg with Lucas, they announced their pg, on his Christening day, as dh puts it "to steal his thunder". Then, when I was pg with Isabella, they concieved during the time between her loss and burial...needless to say, the niece that was born 9 mos after my dd's passing has always been a sad reminder for me. BIL was a jerk back then, couldnt understand why I wasnt jumping for joy for them, why I didnt want to come see them in the hospital or hold her afterwards...

Now, this whole pg they have been ...weird...they dont like the attention every one has been giving us, and the concern everyone has shown. They have gone back and forth, while people were asking us stuff about the pg, baby etc, about how they want another one, but they dont know, daycare i so expensive, can they handle a third etc etc....while we are trying to talk to about our situation with someone who asked..

today, we go to another cousins bday party...my niece (BIL's oldest, 5) comes up to me for a hug....as I pick her up she rubs my belly and says "mommy has a baby in her belly too"...I just looked at my SIL not really believing it...and yep, its true. So while people were asking and getting excited about the fact that we only have two weeks to go...here she is rambling about how its so early for them and supposed to be a secret (yet you tell a 5yr old?)....and then BIL starts in....dh was pissed, bec again he felt like they had to overshadow our excitement and happiness with theirs, for immature jealousy reasons...

Dont get me wrong...every child is a blessing and I am happy for them...but every time I am pg, they get pg...and insist on sharing the news at a time when it should be my child's turn in the spotlight...selfish I know, but I cant help it....

I will probably delete this later, but I just had to vent....and I think, if I read back in my blog to Feb/Mar 06, I will have more of the same comments about BIL too..