katiesmom

Im seriously considering taking dd to counseling. Where have I gone wrong? Im am totally done with her. She makes me crazy. Just totally crazy. For the past 2 days she has been a total B because ds had a broken bone in his foot and he was getting "attention" and she felt she was not. Believe me she was getting her fair share. I have searched my head for weeks on end now trying to figure her out. I think dh and I came up with what is causing her behavior but I really dont know how to fix it. Instead of acting like a 9 year old she tries to act like the little ones to get more attention. She went on a HUGE rant on Monday saying "what have you done for me today? NOTHING thats what" This was the day I had all 3 with me at the ER getting ds foot xrays and he got scared and had a 30 minute fit. I tried to bribe him with candy and dd heard that. So on the way home Im exhausted because its 530pm and my 2 year old had not had a nap all day and she was out like a light in her car seat. So I was thinking how I was going to work this out and oldest dd says "MOM YOU SAID YOU WERE GOING TO GET US CANDY" I told her that maddy was asleep and I had no way of getting out of the car now. So she rolls her eyes and demands I stop anyway. I told her it was not her that was promised candy I had plenty at home that josh can choose form. So I asked ds if he minded choosing from the candy bucket at our house since his little sis was asleep and he was happy about that. So I proceed home with oldest dd pouting and giving me evil looks through the mirror Yesterday when we went to get ds cast on she cried because all the attention was on him even after I had talked to her about how I understood how she was feeling and we all feel like this from time to time and it was ok to feel that way but not to actually fall into a self pity mode. Thats she needed to snap out of it and lets have a good day after wards. She eventually did but she was extremely clingy to me the rest of the day. She is constantly grouchy and nasty. I end up being nasty right back because I just snap. Im working on that really really hard but its NOT easy. She also suffers from many very unrealistic fears. I had told her a few days ago that I would take her to the mall to pick something since she had lost a tooth and she knows IM the tooth fairy. So I said today if we go to the mall I will need you to help me since josh has a cast you may need to push him in the mall cart for me. I will push little dd in the stroller. She said NO im not pushing him. This is MY mall trip and I dont want to. She has fears of getting lost in the mall. She has fears of bumping into people with the cart at the mall. She stresses herself out about all these silly little things. She fears falling behind me while pushing her brother. I tell her I will stay with you just like I always do. Then it turns into a nasty little tone where she says I always leave her behind I never have. Not even close. Ok got to go get everyone ready I just had to get this off my head.