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The "Smart Girl" look

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by , 02-23-2010 at 08:08 PM (724 Views)
So everything is about being/looking like a "smart girl." That's what was behind the chopping of the hair, to start off. Well at first she was going for sassy, but then we had conferences.

Honestly, I almost wish Susannah hadn't been there for the conference. I, of course, live for conferences. I jokingly told my boss when I let her know I needed to leave early for the conference that I needed to go get validated as a good mom Seriously, I enjoy hearing about her progress and what a good girl she is. And I think it's good for her to hear it too, but .... yeah.

Maybe I shouldn't question it, and be happy I get such glowing reports. But when she is sitting there hearing "You didn't even need to come in, I could have emailed you a note to say your daughter is perfect," and "I wish I had a classfull of Susannahs," I hate to say it but my girl lets it ALL go right to her pretty little head. Then, when I asked if he had an idea which teacher she'll have for next year he jokingly said "I think I'm just going to raffle her off, they'll be fighting for her." She was beaming at all the praise, as I'd expect, and I am beyond proud of her, but with her attitude at home, I wonder if it's a bit too much.

So anyway, she decided to go with the smart girl look. We had to go get her hair chopped a bit shortee because that looks smarter. Then we went to get new frames. (She needed new glasses, we didn;t go JUSt to accomodate her new look.) LOLOL I am not kidding that we were there for over an hour just looking at frames. They had to be black and they had to look a certain way. So we got them ordered, complete with "transmission" lenses, and she got them today She was so irritated because today was class picture day, and she wanted them for the photo, but they didn't get in until this afternoon (and excuse that nice red koolade mustache )





So anyway, back to the conference... while there, in front of her again, Mr. Teacher brought up testing her for GT. Her 2nd grade teacher brought it up last year, and I blew it off for a number of reasons. Mainly, I don't know that I necessarily feel she is GT. Do I think she is brilliant and amazing, yes! But does that make her GT? I'm not convinced it does. If she enjoys something, she is above and beyond, but if not, it's like pulling teeth to get her into it. I know her teachers see a different Susannah than I do at home, but I still just don't know about this whole GT thing. So I asked HOW being "identified" would benefit her. He said that considering she is already in the advanced class, I probably wouldn't see a huge benefit at the elementary level, but that it would benefit her more once she gets into middle school and especially high school. So what to do???? As I said, I have reservations. Is she really gifted, or just an eager student? Will being labeled *oops* I mean "identified" really benefit her? And considering that she has such a thing about being the smart girl... what if I have her tested and it turns out she isn't GT? Can I let her take the test without her knowing what it's for? That way she would never need to know if she didn't pass?

Ugh.

Updated 02-23-2010 at 08:13 PM by joanna

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  1. Janeen's Avatar
    I love the new glasses. They're almost as dorky, oops I mean almost as smart looking as mine.

    And I think I need to learn a thing or two from my niece about being an eager student.
  2. Sonj's Avatar
    We have chosen not to have MJ tested... he does well and we challenge him at home... for now, anyway. Maybe later. She is flippin adorable!! When you gonna be round here again? We would love to see you guys!!
  3. SamsMom's Avatar
    The glasses look great...my third-grade DS just got them for the first time recently.

    About the conferences...we are strongly discouraged from bringing our kids to them. When I've had to, I let them sit in the hallway.
  4. Christina~FL's Avatar
    WTG Susannah Glad to hear she is doing so well in school.
    If you choose to allow her to be tested I would tell them in advance that I did not want her to know why she was being tested. That just seems like a lot of pressure for her age.

    Oh man, she looks SO cute with that haircut and those glasses rock! She DOES look smart
  5. 3boys2luv's Avatar
    If they do the testing there like they do it here, they'll do all the testing for a certain grade/group of classes at one time. I have no doubt that she'll figure out what it's for. My oldest was tested and I sort of told him it was to determine what class was the best for him for the next year. Then he came home and told me what it was really about.
  6. BC-CrystalAZ's Avatar
    She DOES look smart. And hey, I would encourage her in wanting to be the smart girl. Of all the type of girls she could aspire to be, that is the best in many ways.

    Crystal
  7. Jane Smith's Avatar
    Love the new haircut and glasses. I can't beleive how quickly she is growing and how much she has changed...
  8. Desca's Avatar
    She does look smart. You do have your hands full, but in a good way.
  9. Lois's Avatar
    Love the hair and the glasses. Just wanted to tell you that I have TWO girls who are different people at school (apparently) than at home. It is boggling my mind and frustrating me also! I think, given what you wrote that I wouldn't test her for now....I wonder if there is some advantage to the teacher or the school if they "identify" someone as gifted?
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