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by , 10-26-2010 at 07:34 PM (542 Views)
So, after the last day, I call his teacher. My man loves his teacher, he wears deoderant (Axe) and wants to impress her, both by actions (classwork) and looking good. They have a special relationship which is wonderful. Since it was difficult to get the entire story, I wanted to chat with her- get another perspective (I have never wanted to track down 8 year olds and beat them up). We chatted, she handled this situation well I think. Ms C gave him choices, how would he want to handle this- did he want to tell his friends what the pin was for and share what is happening with his mom? Did he want to not talk about it any more? What did he want to do? He chose to share, him and one of the other boys talked, and the boy apologized and they both shook hands. What a guy- I am so proud. There are things I am still struggling with- why didnt she call me, my son never sobs and cries? It is never ok for another person to put there hands on another- grab a pin on his body. Is this bullying, or just young boy behavior.

What I do know is that this incidence has changed him. Today he is possibly embarassed by me, my baldness, my being different and this oozing onto him and his life. He could be protective, but either way, he and I are changed by a thoughtless act by a child. It makes me so sad. He doesnt want me to go to his Halloween party, he doesnt want bald, sick, cancer me- it hurts.
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  1. Blondie8's Avatar
    My heart ached for you reading this post.

    He will always want you in his life, though at 8 (with or without you being bald or sick) he might just want you not there at the time. As the story with the boys illustrate, he's navigating some choppy waters with friends and school. He handled it really well,~kudos to you. Sorry you're feeling this so personally and for worrying so much about his well being as you fight your own battles.
  2. Crystal's Avatar
    Blondie said it so much better than I ever could. He will ALWAYS need you mom. I know that it would hurt me too. I really think he is just trying to find his own balance and he will get there soon.
  3. elliemay's Avatar
    Thank you ladies- for the added perspective, it is just so hard to see the hurt. I appreciate the comments, they helped.
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