Briar

WTF! I am still so pissed. OK, more than pissed. If I was blogging on another site that is NOT the choice of words I would use. My brother, age 51 brings it upon himself that he is destitute. Decides not having a "real"job is OK. He "babysits" his deceased wife's relatives autistic son. Now before anyone gets their knickers in a twist, I do realize this is a real job but .... My brother likes to do it(the kid is 19) cuz he can sit and play stupid video games( grand theft auto) and crap like that with him. My brother is getting a check from the state to "babysit" him a few hours a day. My brother, had a job in a stockroom of a hospital for years. But he is lazy and HATES others to tell him what to do. So one day decided "he quit". For some reason my mom thinks of him as poor pitiful M. He had a hard birth in the 50's, we both almost died. I think he is "not Normal". REALLY? This is the brother that blew my other brother and me away at grades WTF!
I tell mom, gee mom, try telling the state of MN that your son is not normal and should be on some sort of assistance when HE HIMSELF IS COLLECTING PAY FROM THE STATE TO BABYSIT this autistic guy. WTF???
So, what does mom do? Gets royally pissed at me! I am a heartless *****. Yup. I can not understand where she (mom as a mother) is coming from. REALLY???
Fast forward, this destitute, toy owning(lots of them to sell including TWO motorcycles truck, car.,10,000 television system-all since his loving,(mean that in the best way wife died.) He has my mom wrapped around his fingers. she hates it, *****es to me and I tell her, don't coddle. She agrees, but also gets pissed. Had to give mom a dose of reality, that if she were gone, he would NOT live here. Not ever. He needs to do what he needs to do to get by.
Brother M called me a few weeks ago. I told him he is invited( I have a open invite here, not invite needed) to come for T-giving. So we talked, he sounded up and said he will be here. I said, "well, if you get a better offer, you can go" meaning, he can not wait to go to his widow wife's family for the holidays and has for a few years now. He said "oh no, I will be there.

so, t-giving comes and we are eating and the turkey is pretty good. NOT DRY , iI mean sometimes it is a call on whether or not it will be dry! So I am being complemented(not that it is the cook) on the turkey by about 5 people at the table and M says " Well, Mine is so dry I can't even eat it!" as he shoved it to the top of his plate. Well, to know me would know "those are fight en words and I just shut up. I shut up. Why?My mom. She has been pissing me off lately and I don't need to look like the bad guy over the bad guy kwim.

So, now, 3 days later. I am just livid. This A HOLE bro of mine, brought leftover containers to take home. I actually filled them. S Should have $hit in the one that was to contain the turkey as it WAS NOT UP TO HIS STANDARDS. Guess I really thought that beggars should not be choosers but that he is NOT there yet.

Hmm, no wonder mom doesn't want to discuss M with my other brother or myself. We are livid he is taking advantage this way.

I have an open invite at my home for my family. They know that. I will NOT invite him back here after ridiculing me for the food. Poor men should not judge.
If he actually asks(most likely wont ask becasue he will want to rush to his dead wifes mothers house for chow) but if he asks about christmas dinner here? Well my brother, I think I may find my self a man at the mission that actually appreciates a meal. Not a self centered( we owe you) SOB.

Don't come here for christmas. Please don't . I hate to turn you down, but I will. Tough love.You are my BIG bro. ACT LIKE IT.

I am so pissed at you. I don't know how long it will take me to get over your **** self centered thoughts.