Proactive Email to brother...Be NICE OR...
by, 12-24-2008 at 09:33 AM (208 Views)
After the Thanksgiving fiasco, see the last blog entry if you are not up to date. I have been stewing about what my brother said at the table. It is NOT so much WHAT he said but that it WAS said. It pissed me off beyond belief. I put that it hurt my feelings, not so, just wanted him to think that. I am appalled and sick of the fact my mom still basically thinks he can do no freakin wrong. This brother is 51 flippin years old!
So, My other brother(the younger one and I) think alike about this brother. He is a user, and we are sick of it. Our mother basically puts her fingers in her ears with 'la la la" don't want to hear it.
so, she (mom) heard him say what he said at T-Giving. She said nothing. Neither did I to avoid confrontation.
But, I will not have it again, NOT EVER.
I shot this email off to him last night. Like a dummy I forgot to put a read receipt on it. doesn't matter. This is My expectation or stay home.
I really hope he skips my home and goes to his (widows) inlaws. He usually can not get out of my house fast enough to tear over there anyway.
Not too harsh I don't think for someone who treated me like that given a free meal!
mom knows NOTHING of this. If she asks if he is coming, will just say. I don't know, haven't heard. That is the truth.
Sorry, but Christmas will not be a repeat of Thanksgiving. I don't need rude.
my email to him:
Hi, Not sure what your plans are for Christmas day but I did want to mention somthing if you intend to come here.
On Thanksgiving day at the dinner table everyone was enjoying their food and raved about how nice and moist the turkey was. You then proceeded to push your turkey to the top of your plate and said "Not mine!, Mine is so dry I can't even eat it!" I was dumbfounded. Mortified and in disbelief with hurt feelings. No one said anything to you. We all just tried to say "oh, well probably because it is a white piece of meat' Blah blah.
The more I thought about what you did to me at Thanksgiving the angrier I got. I WOULD NOT ALLOW my own children to say something so horrible , especially when they are INVITED to a dinner and asked to bring nothing. My kids were also very surprised at your attitude.
My point of this email is this. If you come to my home I expect you to respect me and the others in this home. It seemed you didn't want to be here that day, you don't have to come, but surely don't take your anger out on any of us because you did.
I wanted to get this off to you so that you are aware of what I expect in my home. I expect respect. I don't think that is asking too much of anyone.