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Isolated and Alone!

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by , 01-12-2006 at 10:03 AM (271 Views)
I am new ot this SAHM stuff. With Griffin being born right before summer there was little programs offered for new mom's during the summer so I found it very lonely and isolating during those months. I was glad to finally begin mom and baby groups in September to get us out of the house and meet other new moms.

My family all live at least an hour away and what friends I do have either live an hour away, work during the day or do not have children. So to say the least I am truly alone.

Back to the mom and baby groups. I enjoyed them while they were schedule and now that the sessions are over a few of the new moms and I have decided to meet on our own. However the committment level has deminished significantly and we barely get together once a month now. I am frustrated because I am committed to these gatherings and often show up only to be the only one there with my baby. Some times they cancel while others they just fail to show which I think is truly disrespectful.

I have always struggled keeping friends ... I think it is because I want someone who is reliable and committed and no one is willing to put the same effort in. I do not think I am over bearing but is it too much to ask for comittment to your word? I guess I quickly end friendships which show little respect for me or my time and lack of committment. However again this leaves me isolated!

I know the isolation is short lived as I will be returning to work in the summer and Griffin will be in daycare so will get the interaction with other children, however how do I keep my sanity until then?

I have signed us up for swimming lessons which started this week, I go to mommy movies once a week (but you don't really talk with others there) and I am supposed to meet with these other moms once a week as well but that has slowly dropped off. I need to keep busy for my sanity but also Griffin needs mroe stimulation then just me and the animals!

Any other suggestions??
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  1. MamaBear's Avatar
    That's one of the hardest things about being a Mom. It can feel very isolating. I actually had a Church "job" of coordinating a mid-week activity for the SAHMs and kids. Many times, I would show up and NO ONE else would come. Got to be extremely frustrating. But, sometimes, life just gets in the way for all of us. The unexpected occurs, illnesses, appointments etc. and it's just not possible to do it all, all the time. I'm sorry you're feeling let down with your new friends. Maybe you could contact your local YMCA or gym and find out about any Mommy & baby exercize/yoga classes or your parks & recreation to see about any local Mommy Clubs. There's gotta be something out there. I hope you find something soon.
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