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I am going to end up nursing him until college!

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by , 01-18-2006 at 10:55 AM (335 Views)
Ok I struggle sometimes with picking and choosing battles as a parent.

I have a child that willl only go to sleep being held and nursed by me. I absolutely love this time with him and cherish each moment however I know that this is not good for him as well. We have read three or four books now that state contradicting things .. one says cry him out you are doing him no favors while the other says if you do not respond to his cry then he will never trust you etc. ...

SO we have tried the crying it out ... and he will go on and on and on and end up vomitting. We have tried going in rubbing him and reassuring him without picking him up but that just escalates it. We have tried leaving him without going back in ... but then it goes on and on and on. Has never cried himself to sleep!

We have tried the nursing to sleep and he falls asleep but as soon as he is placed in his crib his eyes pop open or he only sleeps for ten minutes.

HELP!!!!! Any suggestions? Somedays it is easier for the both of us to just leave things the way they are but ... I cannot nurse him until he goes to college (iykwim).

He will not take a bottle for someone else to try, and he will not take expressed breastmilk in a sippy cup ... my stubborn little boy!!!

Man I love the determination in this kid!

edited to add ... Griffin is 7 months old! And is an awesome night sleeper .. just a crappy day sleeper!
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  1. PrincessBride's Avatar
    How old is he? My first nursed to sleep until 17 1/2 months at which time he was night-weaned in preparation for our second baby. He did fine with that. Babies have short sleep cycles and this is frustrating but is nature's way of not letting them fall into too deep of a sleep, which can be dangerous and lead to SIDS. What I found is that yes, my babies would awaken shortly after I laid them in bed (like only 30 mins of sleep) but if I nursed them again, the second nursing put them out further and they slept longer. This up and down was easier, though, since I nursed them in our bed and co-slept with them. I know some don't agree with that, but it worked very well for us. I fully plan on doing it for our third (if we are able to have another one). Good luck!!
  2. KTJ's Avatar
    How old is your sweetie? I'm still night-nursing my 13 1/2 month old - his twin sister is weaned but I can't get him to sleep without nursing him either. I can't make him CIO; I just can't. I'm co-sleeping, too.
    I'd really like to get him weaned but I'm not planning on having another nursling so I'm trying just to relax and appreciate the closeness while I have it.
  3. MyFabFour's Avatar
    Elizabeth Pantley, Jay Gordon and Dr. Sears all have books about gentley helping our babies to sleep. I'm reading these right now. While my baby doesn't need to nurse to sleep, we do have other issues. I really like Elizabeth Pantley's book "The No Cry Sleep Solution." good luck!
  4. Holly's Avatar
    I nursed my babies to sleep until they were 18 mos or so. I say if you love this time with him and he loves it too, then why stop until he's ready?

    I promise, he won't nurse until college!
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