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Ahhh!! (venting! not fertility related)

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, 04-23-2012 at 08:29 AM (605 Views)

So this isn't really fertility related, but I am in serious need of venting!
I've heard people say that when things go wrong they usually happen in threes and unfortunately for me this 3 things going wrong seems to be happening to me.

First I found out that the likelihood of me having children with my own eggs is near impossible. Then we got a phone call from our landlady--informing us that we have until June 1st or June 15th to get out of our apartment. And then finally--driving home from work on the thruway my fiancés truck broke down--granted we were able to fix the truck (thank you God!) but it was still scary for me.

Currently I am praying that this is the end of my bad news/events streak. Stress definitely does not help with the whole fertility thing and I seriously don't need any more in my life. The whole landlady thing really aggravates me though!

My fiancé and I brought home a puppy in January. A very expensive and rare breed. One of their attributes being that they are not barkers. We spoke to our upstairs neighbor before bringing her home and he said he was fine with it. Now just to make sure that she's learning to settle down fast, I started recording her when we left with my iPad. The last thing we wanted was an aggravated neighbor.

Long story short--he called our landlady and said our puppy was such a loud barker that he has to leave his apartment until we get home. Which is ridiculous! We have her on tape crying for 5 minutes! And she's only 4 months old! From what we can gather--our neighbor wants our apartment. He also wants to use the backyard that I've spent my weekends weeding and decorating--it looks amazing compared to when we moved in and every time he saw that I was working on it he would scoff, laugh at me and shake his head. So because he went and lied to our landlady--she either wants us out of the apartment or to get rid of the puppy because "she barks ALL the time."

The thing that pisses me off the most is that when we told our neighbor that we were getting the puppy I made the mistake of mentioning that I was going to get the puppy regardless, but if he didn't want us to get her we'd have to find a new place. We asked him in November and didn't get the puppy until January--which would have given us plenty of time to find a new apartment. Not less than a month--like we currently have.

He also said that if he had any issues he'd come to us first because in his words "there is no need to get Nora (our landlord) involved." In either case--we know he lied to get us kicked out. He's been upstairs packing for the last week.

My dad keeps telling me not to dwell on the negative. I'm trying very hard not to, but with this whole moving thing , car problems and then my fertility--which I was just starting to stop crying over, its just very difficult not to see the bad. I know the negativity is not good at all.

Does anyone have any tips on how to stay positive?

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  1. KimAtFertilityAuthority's Avatar
    Hi bgs,

    I am so sorry you are going through this right now. It isn't fair to deal with IF, but then to have the other things on top of that. You are super stressed and frustrated right now!

    I don't have much advice on the landlord situation, unfortunately, just take things in stride the best you can.

    In terms of IF, there are many ways to become a parent and it just depends on how comfortable you feel using donor egg, adopting, etc. I really hope things work out for you. You don't deserve to feel this way. Things have to start looking up soon!

    Best,
    Kim
  2. bpreeti2000's Avatar
    Hi bgs,

    I know what you are feeling like. This month has been particularly stressful for me. I have no support with my IF, so only I and DH know about it. My in laws live with me, so thats very tough since there are constraints to privacy and alone time. I've started my cycle for this month. We took a good 6 months to get to this point, so there's a toil from that on us. Then my DH had an accident (thank god nothing happened to him) and the car insurance will cover about half the expenses but the damage is huge so thats an expense. Our air conditioning needed repairs, then I dropped my cellphone and something ran over it and I had to get it repaired. I have a weekly help at home who left since this month so that's added housework for me and having to find a new one. Business in my freelancing has gone down severely.
    So I have no support, no house help, no car, no job and starting my cycle this month. I'm all waterworks almost daily now.
    TOday I'm taking the time to sleep durign the day when I can to rest. Also I've downloaded some meditation tapes and listening to them. The sounds are calming. I just need to have patience and this time too shall pass.

    Take care and try to distract yourself. Maybe soft music from your childhood giving you nice memories?
  3. bpreeti2000's Avatar
    Hi bgs,

    I know what you are feeling like. This month has been particularly stressful for me. I have no support with my IF, so only I and DH know about it. My in laws live with me, so thats very tough since there are constraints to privacy and alone time. I've started my cycle for this month. We took a good 6 months to get to this point, so there's a toil from that on us. Then my DH had an accident (thank god nothing happened to him) and the car insurance will cover about half the expenses but the damage is huge so thats an expense. Our air conditioning needed repairs, then I dropped my cellphone and something ran over it and I had to get it repaired. I have a weekly help at home who left since this month so that's added housework for me and having to find a new one. Business in my freelancing has gone down severely.
    So I have no support, no house help, no car, no job and starting my cycle this month. I'm all waterworks almost daily now.
    TOday I'm taking the time to sleep durign the day when I can to rest. Also I've downloaded some meditation tapes and listening to them. The sounds are calming. I just need to have patience and this time too shall pass.

    Take care and try to distract yourself. Maybe soft music from your childhood giving you nice memories?
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