Learning to keep my mouth shut...
by, 04-16-2012 at 07:50 AM (861 Views)
I read a post on the forum last week "I wish someone would have told me to keep my mouth shut" and then I went and opened my mouth. My friend is up from Florida visiting her boyfriend and they came over last Thursday to hang out for a little bit. While the guys were in living room screaming at the hockey game, we hung out in the kitchen to talk. I wish we hadn't!
Feeling close to her, I told her my problems--the first friend I've actually told. After I go on to tell her that IVF will more than likely be the only way we can have kids she decides to tell me a little story. A story about some random famous couple, who? I have no idea, that has a show on E!. They couldn't get pregnant, so she did 4 rounds of IVF and in the end she found out she had breast cancer. My friends conclusion "Yeah, so IVF gives you cancer. I wouldn't do that"
All night long. "I wouldn't do that" I just wanted to smack her across the face. Who says that?
In the end I think she's mad that my fiancé and I have been together for over 2 years and she's been with her boyfriend for over 7. I understand her being jealous that we will be getting married, but why would she try and stomp on my dreams of having children. Especially after she made it abundantly clear on New Years Eve that she NEVER wants to have children.
She also felt that us having a destination wedding was a bad choice. "Nope, wouldn't do that" "why don't you guys just..." She had lots of opinions and I know I shouldn't listen to any of that negativity, but I just couldn't help and think "Why is she reacting like this?"
In the end-- I wish I would have just kept my big fat mouth shut!
From now on the only people that will know anything will be my mom and my fiancé and that I'm fine with