http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/ Infertility and Adoption online interactive support community for your family-building efforts. Information and discussion includes infertility, adoption, pregnancy, parenting and surrogacy issues. en Tue, 18 Jun 2013 23:44:36 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/ http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76807-wow-i-had-dream-they-got-him-they-really-did.html Tue, 20 Sep 2011 07:28:26 GMT Oh my gosh. I don't know how else to describe my mood right now, except for euphoric. Late every night I check the courthouse website to see if the creep has been caught yet. When my oldest daughter was going through the crap with her stalker, Denver updated the case as soon as anything happened. I assumed that it would work the same way for a case here in my county. I was WRONG!

Friday night before I went to bed I checked. Nothing had changed. I had a dream Friday night that was strange. In the dream, DH & I was standing somewhere outside (I don't know where) and we saw a car sitting there, along with a cop car that had it's lights going. DH smiled real big and said to me "Isn't that just beautiful". I looked at him and said "What's beautiful?" He said "They stopped him with the warrant out on him. They've got him!". I looked back at the cars again, then it dawned on that it was Chewie's car and the police had caught him. Chewie, nor the officer himself was ever pictured in my dream, but after DH said that and I looked again I knew that's who/what it was.

I woke up almost excited and checked the computer. Nope, he hadn't been caught. I checked it again Saturday night and Sunday night, but nothing had been entered into the log. This evening I told DH about my dream. He smiled and said "Have you" I cut him off and said "yeah, I was hoping my dream meant something but it didn't. I've checked all weekend and they didn't get him.". He laughed & said "I was gonna say...".

Imagine my surprise just a bit ago when I was getting ready to go to bed. I thought, well I should check to see if they got him today. I figured I was wasting my time though, because I thought if they're going to get him it'll be on a weekend or not at all. I logged in and they got him! -Guess when they got him? FRIDAY NIGHT at 10:58pm is when they logged in transported and booked!!!!!

He went before the judge today, and was released on his own recognizance. That kind of makes me mad that the Judge let him out without bail money needed. I mean, he already avoided and hid from the police since the warrant came out so why in the heck would they let him out without needing bail? Not dwelling on that though, because it makes me madder & madder to keep thinking of it. There's a pre-trial hearing set up for October 17th at 2pm. He has a lawyer now, and when I looked up the address for our Public Defender's office, it's the same address as what's listed in the log for his attorney. So now, I just hope & pray that he has a really BAD public defender. I know that there are some really good ones out there, but our county has a rep of also having some really bad ones. Never heard of this guy, so don't know which side he falls on.

I am absolutely wired right now. No way in heck that I can go to sleep for awhile. It's 3:26am and I'm guessing that I'll just stay up until DH gets up for work at 4am so that I can tell him. Hopefully after that, I'll be wound down enough to be able to sleep!! It just amazes me that I had that dream Friday night and then they really did catch him Friday night. It's kind of weird & creepy. I'm so glad that I went ahead & mentioned it to DH tonight, or he'd probably never believe me LOL! ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76807-wow-i-had-dream-they-got-him-they-really-did.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76788-dd-came-home-upset-today.html Tue, 13 Sep 2011 01:13:11 GMT She said that a boy at school came up to her and said "Guess who I saw & hung out with this weekend?". She said I don't know, who? He told her Chewie (nickname of DD's predator). She said "so, why are you telling me?" and the boy said "I thought you guys were friends". DD said "not anymore". The boy said "Oh, he picked me up & took me to a party". DD said "Oh, well good for you" & walked away.

She came home in a horrible mood because his name had been brought up. She told me that even just hearing his name instantly makes her mad & conjures up all kinds of emotion. So, I was right and he IS still around here. He's just avoiding the police. My question is, why is he picking up a 16yr old boy & taking him to a party?! Why is he trying to hang around with someone so young? Is he also into little boys, as well? -And I honestly don't mean that snarky either. I'm dead serious.

I'm starting to lose patience. It INFURIATES me that he has a nationwide warrent out for his arrest, yet he's out running around and partying, while my DD is sitting her tore up and going through what she is emotionally. It's killing me. Wish I had the money for a P.I. to tail him & arrest him on his warrent. Waiting on the police to get him, is too slow. I'm not that patient. She was soooo upset today that it just infuriated me. He needs to get caught & locked up, then I hope & pray that he "drops his soap" a lot in prison!!!!!!!!!! He needs to ROT! ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76788-dd-came-home-upset-today.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76781-warrant-radius-1.html Fri, 09 Sep 2011 08:03:59 GMT I had saw that the warrant radius for the creep was 1. I've never been in trouble, nor my husband or kids so I don't understand all this legal talk. I thought it meant that they'd pick him up within a 1 county radius. I asked my DH if I was right & he said yeah. Well, we were wrong. I got paperwork today that told me he had a radius 1 warrant & that a radius 1 warrant meant that it's nationwide. That made me smile a little. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76781-warrant-radius-1.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76782-warrant-radius-1.html Fri, 09 Sep 2011 08:00:59 GMT I had saw that the warrant radius for the creep was 1. I've never been in trouble, nor my husband or kids so I don't understand all this legal talk. I thought it meant that they'd pick him up within a 1 county radius. I asked my DH if I was right & he said yeah. Well, we were wrong. I got paperwork today that told me he had a radius 1 warrant & that a radius 1 warrant meant that it's nationwide. That made me smile a little. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76782-warrant-radius-1.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76757-hard-post.html Wed, 31 Aug 2011 02:40:43 GMT This is probably the hardest post I've ever written. It is NOT going to be rainbow's & sunshine. There may be some unsavory words, so if you'll be offended, please don't read. This post will contain talk of sexual molestation, so if that will bother you, please don't read. If you're going to judge me, my parenting or my child, then please don't read because I'm EXTREMELY defensive & touchy about this. Now, if anyone is left TO read, here it goes.


Back around the end of April/beginning of May (I don't remember exactly when) I posted on a board here asking about statuatory rape. It wasn't a friends child, it was mine. I was embarrassed, horrified, ashamed and more to tell the details. I still am, but no one knows about this except for my DH and he will NOT talk about it and it's eating me up.

Well, I've typed those two paragraphs then sat here for 5 minutes trying to put anything more into words. There was this guy. DH has a cousin that's quite a bit older than him, and she has a son (Nick) that's around 12yrs younger than DH. This guy, is Nick's best friend. That is how we met him. We figured he was early 20's and seemed like the nicest guy around. He'd stop over & help DH and DS with projects around the house. He'd come over and watch movies with us. He's big into gaming which my DS is too. DH likes gaming, but isn't a nut about it, but this guy would come play games with DS. This guy, is a total CREEP!

So forgive me if I'm jumping around. This really is so hard for me, but I'm going crazy and have to get it out. So late April/early May. It was around midnight. DH was working nights, the kids were in bed. I play games on FB and needed something for one of my games. I logged into DD's FB account, to send it to myself. I notice she had one private message alert. I'm usually not nosy at all, so I don't know why I did, but I put my cursor over it and it showed who it was from. It was this guys name. I thought to myself "why in the world would HE send her a private message". I opened it. I got the biggest shock of my life. As I'm reading this huge, long list of messages back and forth between them, they are still "talking" & telling each other good night.

I was in such shock that I didn't know what to do. I didn't want DD to know right that minute that I knew anything, because I was grasping & trying to figure out WHAT the first thing I should do was. I ended up reading every message in her history between her and all of her friends. Messages between her & her bff just solidified everything I'd read between her & this guy. So I called DH at work and had a hard time breaking it to him, but did. -He wasn't driving that night, he was pre-loading at the factory that's just less than a mile from our house. I was scared to tell him, for fear he'd go to the guys house & literally kill him. I finally told him. He told me to get every single message printed out immediately, then he hung up on me and was walking in the door less than 5 minutes later. He grabbed the messages that had already printed & started reading them.

Then next day, I finally got DD to admit it and give us details. The first time this guy had sex with her, was a month before she turned 15. I asked her how in the he!! he talked her into doing something so stupid. She said that for almost a year he'd been telling her how pretty she was & that he thought he "loved" her but knew it was wrong at her age. He kept telling her that as soon as she was 18 that they were going to have a relationship together. He was going to marry her someday. That they would have children together & be "in love" for life. Then, one night when DS had a gaming party he had invited this creep & 2 other friends. I guess that when everyone else fell asleep, this creep went into DD's room & told her not to be scared, that he just wanted to "cuddle" with her. Ugh. I want to puke at the word. I'll never, ever like that word again for the rest of my life. Well, as you can imagine, "cuddling" is not all he had in mind, nor all he did.

She said after that 1st time, she felt dirty & ashamed. It ended up happening 5 times between last August & the middle of March. Those that know me on this site, know that my daughter has been being treated for depression since last November. This is why she became depressed. The middle of last school year, she said she wanted to be homeschooled. I was all for it. I hate our school district, but I couldn't believe she was finally agreeing to it which meant she had to give up show choir which singing & performing is the most important thing to her. Now I know why. He "made" her do it. He didn't want her to go to school around other boys. He told her he "wanted" her home schooled. He was a jealous freak every time a boy from school would post anything on her FB wall. Even if it was just "hi".

The day I found out, I called the police. She cried, and bawled, and begged and pleaded for me not to. She was absolutely hysterical. She kept saying "Jesse deserves a dad & he's gonna go to jail! He told me this would end up happening". Jesse is this creeps son who was 3 at the time, so probably 4 now. Just an adorable child, who deserves a FATHER, not a pediphile in his life. She curled herself into a ball on the floor hysterically crying, as I called the police. An officer came and took the report. Even infront of him, she balled & was saying "Please, mommy. Don't. You don't understand. You don't understand. He loves me. He wants to marry me". She was still curled into a ball. The officer kept telling her that I was doing the right thing. Hell, I wasn't sure if I would get into trouble too or not, for not keeping my child safe. -This was not a concern as it turns out. I was told I did everything right by contacting the authorities as soon as I found out & by printing all the messages. I didn't care though. All I knew was that I was physically sick to my stomach & I was turning this guy in no matter what!

The next day, a detective from the sheriff office came to interview her too. Come to find out, it was a guy I went to high school with & knew quite well. My mom & his mom were friends too, when I was growing up. He's the lead detective for our county & he's dang good at his job. I think T talking to DD was the 1st breakthrough she had, in how wrong this whole thing was. T pointed out to her in the FB print-offs, how controlling he was. He pointed out how manipulative he was. He pointed out what a JERK to her he was. T told me "Amy, it may take me a long time to get this guy. But I'm good at what I do, and I WILL get him. I promise you.". I hadn't heard anything about it, and was thinking of calling T to see where the case stood, when I got a letter in the mail last Thursday. On the 17th, the grand jury handed down 2 indictments (sp) of unlawful sexual conduct with a minor. He was to have an arrignment hearing Monday at 1:30pm. It also said that since he was more than 10yrs older than DD, he was being charged with felonies in the 3rd degree instead of in the 4th degree. -Yeah, I left that part out. When T (detective) came to our house, come to find out the @sshole was 27 years old. We all about crapped! We thought he was like 22. Still bad, but 27 blew our minds. Even DD didn't know. Her reaction was genuine & she started crying asking why he'd lie to her about his age. T used that to show her if he'd lie about something like his age, that he lied to her about a whole bunch of things.

So today, I called the victim's advocate to see what happened yesterday with the hearing. He didn't show up. All it was, was for him to plead guilty, innocent or no-contest & he didn't show up. There's a bench warrant out for his arrest. So, I'd had my feelings pretty well under control I thought, but knowing he's finally been charged & now that he didn't show up, I'm a complete mess again. Complete. I had to get this out, in hope's it helps me. Because I'm afraid I'm going to have a nervous breakdown.

I've been told by everbody who's some sort of "official" not to be mad at DD or disappointed in her. I am though. I can't help it. She was raised not to be premiscious (sp). She knew right from wrong. She was raised with sex being an open topic & knew that it was something you don't do as a teen. I can't help but to feel a little angry and disappointed. T told me not to feel that way, that this guy brainwashed her & that's what these type of guys do. He told me it doesn't reflect on my parenting. -Then again, it was my bad judgement that allowed this creep into our home in the first place, so I DO blame myself too. Ugh. This is just a super $hitty situation all the way around.

After finding out "why" DD gave up school, show choir & her friends we agreed to allowing her to go back this year. I'll be dam&ed if he's taking THAT from her too! Thank God they even allowed her back into show choir. Try-outs are at the end of the school year for the next upcoming year...but when she went to register for classes, the guidance counselor told her to go talk to the show choir director & see if she'd give DD a try out anyway. The director told DD that when she heard she was coming back for this year she talked to the choreographer who also is a judge for the try-outs & they both decided that she didn't need one. They said they know how she sings & what she can do so if she wanted in, she was back in. I could literally kiss them both for that! That really helped to cheer her up.

Ok, anyone who read this...please do NOT judge me & my parenting (or lack thereof) because I honestly can't take it right now. Please just keep it to yourself if you do judge. -And as great as most people are on this site, I DO know that judgements ARE made & vocalized. This is why I've held this in for so long. I certainly never thought I'd be in this situation, but it can unfortunately happen to anyone. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/76757-hard-post.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75712-im-so-lame.html Tue, 05 Oct 2010 13:24:58 GMT I get excited over the dumbest little things. I was ecstatic that I finally figured out how to add a coupons.com widget to my blog this morning! It makes it so much more convenient not only for my readers to access coupons I'm telling them about, but also for me to see what hot coupons are available right then!

Ahhh....it's the little things in life, right?! ;) ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75712-im-so-lame.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75708-free-samples-free-advil.html Mon, 04 Oct 2010 21:18:25 GMT Link to a ShoeBuy promotion of $10 off, link to free bottle of advil, and link to free samples and coupons have been added today on my blog. www.dealsteensandmma.com :) Link to a ShoeBuy promotion of $10 off, link to free bottle of advil, and link to free samples and coupons have been added today on my blog. www.dealsteensandmma.com
:) ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75708-free-samples-free-advil.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75700-hey-friends.html Sat, 02 Oct 2010 18:26:09 GMT Several people from this site have told me in the past that I should try to utilize my deal seeking skills to try and make money. Well, today I finally took the plunge and started a blog. It's called "Deals, Teens and MMA". It'll feature those things. -My crazy kids, Cody's MMA and deals I find, money saving tips, etc. If I can get a faithful following, I can start making a little money off it and get some free products to try and review, extra ones to give away in blog contests, etc.

Like I said, I just started it today, so it'll take me a bit to get into the groove of it, but I'll post "something" every day. If those of you who have encouraged me to try and do something like this to bring in cash would go to my blog and "follow" me, I'd really appreciate it. Also, if you could help me spread my blog link, that would be SO very appreciated. My blog is located at: www.dealsteensandmma.blogspot.com

Thanks so much for any help you can give me, and for being patient while I learn the ropes of this. :D ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75700-hey-friends.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75243-dang-mma-fights.html Sat, 03 Jul 2010 17:39:31 GMT Well Cody's 2nd MMA fight is 2 weeks from today. Then, he has another one 2 weeks from that date, then another one 1 week later (I think that's the right span apart). I had almost 2 months to recover from the 1st one and build my nerves back up. Now that we're 2 weeks out from the next one, I'm starting to get that butterflies in my stomach feeling again. Why can't he have a hobby that isn't so physical?? Ugh. Boys. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75243-dang-mma-fights.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75194-ugh.html Sat, 26 Jun 2010 16:08:10 GMT Remember my "friend" who I was to adopt her baby several years ago then she backed out? Since she found me on FB awhile back, she sends me a FB email like once a week or so. She just sent me one today gushing about how Sean's birthday is this coming week and how she still remembers the day he was born. Ummm...well ME TOO lady! I remember taking you to the hospital in the middle of the night. I remember holding your hand through labor and telling you to breathe and how it'd be ok. I remember you squeezing my hand til I thought it'd break. I remember you crying and hollering "I should've just had another abortion! I don't a **** baby anyway!". I remember them rushing you out for an emergency c-section and pacing from the room to the doorway waiting for them to bring him out. I remember them wheeling him straight in to me and seeing his tiny face for the first time. I remember beaming from ear to ear, so proud of him with tears streaming down my face. I remember going with them from the room into the nursery to get his measurements and helping them clean him up. I remember snapping pictures while all this was going on. I remember putting him in my dh's arms the first time. I remember sleeping in a chair in your room for 3 nights in a row to take care of him. I remember YOU turning your head to avoid looking at him. I remember YOU refusing to hold him or touch him. I remember YOU refusing to change a diaper or feed him. I remember YOU on release day telling me "I changed his diaper while you were home getting changed, and I'm taking him home with ME today. I'm sorry, but I'm keeping him.". I remember YOU being pissed off at me because after telling me that, I wouldn't stay at your apartment and help you with him...not even on your first day home with him. I couldn't. You don't even begin to understand how hurt I was and how my heart ached for that baby boy. I remember YOU calling to tell me YOU were taking Sean away and moving to NC with your family. Believe me Lori, I REMEMBER TOO.

Happy 8th Birthday Sean. -From a mommy who loves you that you don't even know. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75194-ugh.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75120-cody-ryan-back-home.html Mon, 14 Jun 2010 00:11:38 GMT Last night after we dropped Nikki at the airport and got to the hotel, I called Cody. When he answered I could hear he was driving and his radio was playing. He said "way to ever answer your phone mom" I asked him what he was talking about. He said he'd called the house phone 4 times that evening. I reminded him that when I spoke with him Friday I told him we'd be in Chicago and if he needed me to call DH's cell phone. He said that he'd forgot and that he was on the turnpike. He said his GPS said he'd be home at 2:50am.

Not going into it all, but some very hurtful things happened in the short time he's been at his dad's house and he refuses to go to college at Shippensburg now. He said he called his Uncle and he's giving him a job (own's a very successful construction business) and that he's just going to keep fighting and keep going to BGSU instead of wrestling at Shippensburg.

I'm happy that he's back home and not going to be so far away, but this child needs to decide what he's going to do and stick to it. Honestly. Like I said..happy he's home but kind of disgusted too. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75120-cody-ryan-back-home.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75071-im-so-excited-see-nikki.html Mon, 07 Jun 2010 04:32:46 GMT Her plane's supposed to get into Detroit, MI at 2pm tomorrow!!!! I haven't seen her since Thanksgiving, and I can NOT wait to see her! -This will be one week that I don't have to worry about Rick murdering her at least. I'll be taking lots of photos! :D ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75071-im-so-excited-see-nikki.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75051-cody-left-tuesday.html Fri, 04 Jun 2010 05:00:37 GMT Well, Tuesday Cody left. He's at his dad's in Baltimore, Maryland. He interviews tomorrow (well, today actually now I guess lol) for a position in the factory where his dad is head of maintenance. His dad talked like the interview is just a formality. We'll see. He may possibly have a fight July 17th in a town that's here. If so, he'll be back on the 16th and that will be the last time I see him unless/until I go to Pennsylvania and see him at college. I told him that I'll do my best to make it to Shippensburg for his first home wrestling meet that's on a Saturday.

Even though he called me on his last leg of the trip down and talked to me until he was about 15 min. from his dads, then called me again Wednesday evening, and I talked to him on FB chat this afternoon....I still miss the kid. I miss him even more since my phone isn't working here. Hopefully by tomorrow (today) or Saturday it'll be working. FB chat just isn't the same as hearing his voice. I've watched his fight video 2x today, just to see him and hear his voice while he's being interviewed after the win.

I love every one of my kids to death, but there's always been some sort of a special bond between Cody and I that I can't really describe. I honestly don't love him "more" than any of the others, it's just a special closeness that him and I have with each other. I know, to those of you who only have 1 child, or very young children, I probably sound like a monster saying that. I just honestly can't put it into words, to accurately describe what I mean. :D He's even told me "Mom, you and I have always been pretty close. It's just different with us.".

My 7 pound 13.5 oz baby boy isn't a baby anymore. Even though I can still see him laying in the cradle, with pj's that were white with light blue stars, he's a grown young man that's flown the coop. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/75051-cody-left-tuesday.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/74902-12-days.html Tue, 18 May 2010 00:43:00 GMT until Cody's fight. I'm getting more nervous by the day. If I sit and think about it, I actually get nauseous. He's training twice a day, every day for this week, then next week he's training once a day, so that he's not so wore out on fight night.

Courtney leaves tomorrow morning at 8am for a field trip the choir is taking. They're going to the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame, bowling with a pizza buffet, and to a musical of Grease then they'll return Wednesday at 3:30pm. Friday, she has to perform with both regular choir and show choir at our Fine Arts Festival.

Between Courtney's doing's and working on the house, I'm sure "fight night" will be here before I know it. I don't know why I'm having such a hard time with this. My kids have done competitive judo (Nikki still does!), wrestling, football, etc. For some reason though, this MMA stuff scares the crap out of me. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/74902-12-days.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/74845-my-19yr-old-son.html Tue, 11 May 2010 03:17:43 GMT who's a state and college wrestler...an MMA fighter...and built like Tarzan is AFRAID to go to the dentist tomorrow to get his teeth cleaned. -That's all they're doing! I took him for a check up last week (incoming wisdom tooth was hurting) and he doesn't have any cavaties at all...just a regular tooth cleaning, and he's afraid. So, I have to get up at 8am and take him. :rolleyes:

I guess I should be happy that he "wants his mommy" though, because I know I'm sure gonna miss the big lug. After his MMA fight on the 29th, he's going to Baltimore, MA to stay and work with his dad until college starts then he'll be in college at Shippensburg, PA and not home until the holidays. :cry: I better savor every moment he gives me until then. ]]> AmymOH http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/amymoh/74845-my-19yr-old-son.html