airforcewife23

I totally understand where you are coming from. Me and DH were TTC for 5 1/2 years before we were able to suceed. I had him trying all different kinds of foods to try and increase his sperm count. Nuts, berries, vitamins, and stinky vitamins. He is the same way about not believing me. If it came from a doctor then he would follow the directions. My husband went through a period where he felt that I should be with someone else because he couldn't give me that child that I wanted so bad! IF is really hard on couples. I am wishing you and DH the best of luck for your future cycles and dont ever give up on your dream of having a child!

HUGS. Your both at different points on the journey. Give him time to digest the news. I tend to agree with you, and I'm the type who feels "more in control" if I am doing SOMETHING, anything, to try and change the problem instead of just waiting. Just for your comparison, we first had a SA done through my gyn...his came back equivacal, and she suggested he see a urologist. I was relatively "happy" because we had found something we might be able to change and had a plan! Dh, was completely devastated and it took him 5 weeks to even call the urologist. Things got way better when we moved to the RE also. Hang in there. Try not to make every conversation about IF or go on and on and on about it, but do keep communicating with him!

Thanks ladies! It must be so hard for him. I know he blames himself for us not having a child but I don't know how to make it better for him. I am the type of person that wants to fix everything and I guess I need to learn there are somethings that cannot be fixed (especially his feelings). I not talk about it with him as much as possible because I know it stresses him out to talk about it all the time. And its not fun for either us. I try to limit it to short conversations of no more than twice a week.