http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/ Infertility and Adoption online interactive support community for your family-building efforts. Information and discussion includes infertility, adoption, pregnancy, parenting and surrogacy issues. en Sat, 25 May 2013 21:46:26 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/ http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/16366-more-bad-news-eye-doctor.html Thu, 06 Mar 2008 03:14:45 GMT I took Jillian back for a follow-up today at the eye doctor. Apparently her in turn is getting worse which is atypical for this point following surgery. The glasses that she prescribed at Jillian's last visit are helping at distance, but not correcting the problem at near. The doctor has now prescribed bifocals. If the bifocals don't correct the problem Jillian will need another surgery within the next year.:( If the bifocals do help than we have to watch and wait. According to the doctor the problem resolves itself in approximately 50% of children by age 8 or 9. If she is not one of the lucky 50% Jillian would still face another possible surgery at around age 10. The poor kid really doesn't catch a break. ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/16366-more-bad-news-eye-doctor.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/19933-not-once-but-twice.html Thu, 27 Dec 2007 01:52:09 GMT Sari peed on the potty again today! :celebrate Sari peed on the potty again today! :celebrate ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/19933-not-once-but-twice.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/19962-couple-big-firsts-week.html Wed, 26 Dec 2007 14:25:48 GMT On Sunday night Jillian had her first sleepover. :yikes: It was one of our very best friends' 3 year old dd. She slept on the trundle in Jillian's room and they had such a good time! They were actually pretty good, but I had to yell at them to go back to bed when they got up at 4:45am! :eek: They actually did! :laugh: I know I am going to be getting alot more requests for sleepovers in the future......

Today Sari made pee-pee in the potty for the first time. She has woken up dry for the last two days and she usually will tell us when she needs a fresh diaper. So, this morning when I found her dry again I asked her if she needs to go potty. She said that she needed to make pee-pee on the potty. I put her on and sure enough she made pee-pee within seconds of sitting down. :D I am still planning on sticking to my plan to follow her cues and not pressure her to use the potty, but I'm still pretty darned impressed! :tongue: ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/19962-couple-big-firsts-week.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20296-kid-doesnt-catch-break.html Wed, 19 Dec 2007 00:50:33 GMT Today I took Jillian back to the surgeon because her belly button hasn't been looking too great. After her surgery in September (umbilical hernia repair) it looked pretty good. She was so proud of her pretty new "inny" belly button. :tongue: A few weeks later we started to notice that her belly button had popped back out. I asked the pediatrician about it when we were there for something else. She looked at it and said that she had actually never seen a belly button that had been repaired pop back out, and she suggested that I bring her back to the surgeon. It took awhile because of my job, but we finally went today and I got the bad news -- the hernia is back.:( My poor baby has to have surgery again.:( I know that there are kids who go through much worse, but that doesn't mean that I can't feel bad for my baby. This is going to be her 7th surgery in two years!

To complicate matters, I have switched insurance and the surgeon that did her original surgery does not accept our new insurance. I now need to find a new surgeon and figure out when Jillian should have the procedure. Honestly, I don't know how people manage to find the time to work full-time. I feel like I have so much on my plate it would be almost impossible to juggle it all. I'm glad that I don't have to worry about work now on top of everything else. ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20296-kid-doesnt-catch-break.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20298-my-first-couple-days-back-home.html Wed, 19 Dec 2007 00:45:09 GMT It's nice to be home with the kids again, but it certainly hasn't been relaxing! I'll start with yesterday....

6:15am Get up and get self and kids ready
Drop off Noah at friend's house to catch school bus at 7:45am
8am parent-teacher conference with Jillian's teacher
Drop dh off at train station for 8:41am train
Go to Allstate to turn in carseats which were in accident and get reimbursement check for replacements
Go to Baby Gap, Bath & Body Works and Bed, Bath & Beyond for gifts
11am appointment with pediatrician for Sari who has double ear infections
Get home, put Sari in for nap by 12pm
12:15 get Noah off bus and feed him lunch
1pm OT evaluation for Noah
1:45 feed Sari lunch while Noah finishes eval
2:10pm Go to drug store to pick up antibiotic for Sari
2:40 Go to post office to mail two packages
3:00 Get home and give Sari first dose of antibiotic
3:05 Get Jillian off bus and head with all three kids to playdate
6:30pm Come home from playdate, get kids ready for bed
7:30pm Put kids to bed

And today.....

6:15am Get up and get self and kids ready
8:05 Put Jillian on bus for school
8:25 Put Noah on bus for school
8:30 Take dh to train station
8:45 Go to Sears to pick up ear muffs for dh
10-11:30 Go to Sari's mommy & me class
12:00pm Get home and put Sari down for nap
12:15 Get Noah off bus and feed him lunch
1:00 Mom comes
1:30 Pick Jillian up from school to go to surgeon
2:00 Surgeon appointment for Jillian
3:00 Stop at BJ's to pick up a few things
4:10 Go home, unload car
4:25 Give kids baths
5:15 Prepare dinner and feed kids
5:45 Clean up kitchen
6:00 Prepare Jillian's lunch for tommorrow
6:20 Adjust new carseats to put in my car which should be picked up from body shop tommorrow
7:15 Get kids ready for bed
7:30 Put kids to bed ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20298-my-first-couple-days-back-home.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20618-my-story.html Thu, 13 Dec 2007 05:20:49 GMT Monday morning dh and I spoke to our nanny about some of the issues we've been having. We told her how upset we were about the bathroom, especially since she didn't tell us about it. I also mentioned the safety issues with the Pine Sol left in the bathroom and leaving the oven on. I didn't even mention anything about the computer or some of the other things that have bothered me. I was not happy with her response about how the bathroom incident occurred, and I pretty much let her know that in a nice way. At that point she kind of went off the deep end. She told us that she had too much responsibility, the hours are too long, the kids are difficult, etc., etc. She made complaints about things that she laughed about in the past (i.e., she complained I had scheduled a Friday playdate when several weeks ago she laughed about a nanny that told her she doesn't do them). She then told us that she can't continue with us and is going to leave. I let her know the feeling is mutual about the fact that this is not working out and we agreed her last day would be on Friday.

Originally, I tried to work things out to continue working. I called the Agency where I got her and asked them to find nannies to interview. We called a new daycare in the area to see if they could take the kids. The cost of the daycare was prohibitive, and the couple of nannies that called thought the hours were too long. At that point dh and I decided that it just isn't worth it. I don't love my job anyway, and I HATE being away from my kids that amount of hours. We were not going to find a new nany before Monday and that put me, and my firm, in a very bad place. They finally gave me work and I couldn't see a way to avoid missing a few weeks while I searched for a new nanny. So, we decided I should quit.

Tuesday I went into the office and gave notice. The partner I work for was very upset to hear the news. She told me that she expected me to go far in the firm if I were to stay. I explained all of my reasons for leaving and that I didn't see a way to avoid it. She told me that if she thought she could convince me to stay she would talk to me all night, but that if I was firm in my decision she would stop. After she told the managing partner (who is out this week), she came back and said she would offer more money or better hours if she thought it would help, but that she didn't think it would. She was right.

I do want to work, but I just don't think that this was the right situation for me. Dh works longer hours than I do, and the kids didn't have either parent home for more than a short time each day. After the new year I will start looking again for something part-time or I will go back to per diem work. I need to do something satisfying, but that leaves me time with the kids.

My last day is Friday and I can't wait! :celebrate:

I told the kids this morning that I will be staying home again starting next week and they all cheered.:D Jillian told me I should tell my office that I miss my kids. :tongue: She also said that if I want to work I should do it while she is in school. It's amazing the way those little minds work! ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20618-my-story.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20691-big-news.html Tue, 11 Dec 2007 21:15:37 GMT My nanny quit, and so did I. I gave my notice today.

I'll update more later. ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/20691-big-news.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21166-after-last-week-its-amazing-i-still-have-job.html Mon, 03 Dec 2007 02:33:27 GMT After another week of h*ll on Thursday I finally told the partner I work for that I hate this job and I'm thinking of quiting. To make a long story short, she told me she really likes my work and wants me to stay. I told her that I can't spend 10+ hours a day away from my children to be miserable. If I am going to be there I have to want to be there and enjoy what I am doing. At the end of the day she told me she had spoken to the managing partner and he told her to do whatever she has to do to make me stay. On Friday I had a fight with her over the level of supervision I am receiving. I told her that I am insulted by many of the things she asks me to see. By the end of the conversation I ended up hanging up on her! :yikes: I've never been insubordinate to a superior in my life, but I really have had it lately. It ended up working out o.k. The managing partner came in to see me and basically told me that they really like me, they want me to stay, and they will work with me and do what they have to so that I'm happy. I guess I'll find out soon enough what that means. I'm hoping it means a raise in a few weeks (they do year end reviews and I was promised that I would be considered even though I will only have been there a couple of months) and that they won't comment when I leave earlier than I am supposed to so I can spend more time with the kids. My goal is to make it through a few more months and ask to go part time. If it doesn't work out I'll be o.k. with that. I'll either stay home again or look for something part-time. My friend that they fired and I are thinking of going into business together doing per diem work, so that's a possibility too.

Speaking of my friend - she went out with my brother last night and they had such a good time that they are out again tonight! :yikes: ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21166-after-last-week-its-amazing-i-still-have-job.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21467-surgery-update.html Tue, 27 Nov 2007 22:48:01 GMT Jillian went back to the eye doctor yesterday and we got more bad news. Apparently, her eyes are crossing and it is worse than it was 2 weeks after the surgery. The doctor gave me a whole lot of technical information, but the long and the short of it is that Jillian will need to wear glasses... Jillian went back to the eye doctor yesterday and we got more bad news. Apparently, her eyes are crossing and it is worse than it was 2 weeks after the surgery. The doctor gave me a whole lot of technical information, but the long and the short of it is that Jillian will need to wear glasses again - maybe forever. The concern is that she will eventually need another surgery, but the doctor said that her problem at its current stage cannot be surgically corrected. This time the lenses will be for farsighted vision (the last ones were for nearsighted vision) although she doesn't need them for vision purposes at all. In fact, they will probably make it more difficult for her to see and they will definitely effect her depth perception. I'm still trying to hunt down her old glasses so I don't have to buy a new pair. Ugh!

I also need to make Jillian an appointment to go back to the surgeon that did her umbilical hernia repair. Initially, her belly button looked great after the surgery and she was so happy to finally have an "inny'. Fast forward a few months and it looks terrible. Dh thinks it protrudes more now than it did even before the surgery.:( I had the pediatrician look at it and she said that she had never seen a umbilical repair pop back out, and that the surgeon should see it. I really hope it doesn't have to be repaired again. ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21467-surgery-update.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21509-so-far-week-isnt-any-better.html Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:04:48 GMT As if my accident last week wasn't bad enough, we just discovered that someone hit my parked car and broke the other review mirror. I'm not sure when it happened, but I'm assuming it was today. My car won't be fixed until next week so we had it parked in the street in front of our house. I don't know how someone hits a parked car and leaves the scene without so much as a note. :rolleyes:

Well, it looks like my office knew exactly what they were doing when they canned my friend from work last week. There was a new attorney in her office today! As if it isn't crappy enough to fire someone the day before Thanksgiving, they obviously already had her replacement lined up and gave her absolutely no notice. I don't understand why they couldn't have told her that things weren't working out and to start looking for a job a few weeks earlier rather than firing her right before a holiday. That tells you the type of people I work for and why I dislike it there so much.

On a positive note, my friend and my brother have been chatting on the phone this week and it looks like they are going to go on a date! :D ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21509-so-far-week-isnt-any-better.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21679-carseat-v-booster.html Fri, 23 Nov 2007 01:32:01 GMT I need to replace the carseats in my car because of my accident and I'm not sure what to do about Jillian's. Right now all three kids are in Britax Marathons. It seems kind of silly to buy a new carseat for Jillian when she is already 5 1/2. So I'm thinking that I should move one of the Marathon's from dh's car to mine and buy a booster seat for Jillian to put there instead. For the amount of times Jillian actually travels in his car it would probably be fine. I'd say she rides in his car maybe 1 or 2 times a month and we already let her ride in a booster on the rare occasion she needs to go in someone else's car. For whatever reason, I still feel strange about the idea of it. I've been pretty crazy about wanting the kids in 5 point harnesses, and for everyday use she still would be. I would never let her go on a long trip in a booster seat. I'm not going to get a Regent because it's not about the size. It will be years before she comes anywhere near the weight limit, and she probably has a couple of more years before she reaches the height limit. I just know that she probably won't be in the carseat for more than another year so it would probably be a waste of money to buy another one now. So, why do I feel so weird about it? ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21679-carseat-v-booster.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21722-just-when-i-thought-year-couldnt-get-any-worse.html Thu, 22 Nov 2007 00:47:07 GMT I had a car accident yesterday.:( Thankfully, no one was hurt (except my car that is!), but it really threw me for a loop. I hit a truck on the way to a deposition and even though I was o.k., I just got hysterical. I was soooo scared! I guess I have something to be thankful for tommorrow. With... I had a car accident yesterday.:( Thankfully, no one was hurt (except my car that is!), but it really threw me for a loop. I hit a truck on the way to a deposition and even though I was o.k., I just got hysterical. I was soooo scared! I guess I have something to be thankful for tommorrow. With a truck that size I could have been killed!

It's really been quite a week already. Sari has croup and hasn't been sleeping, dh started his new job and is already working crazy hours, and now the accident. The only good thing about it is that I was supposed to do a rush motion for work, and they reassigned it to someone else because this happened. At least I can enjoy my Thanksgiving week-end. My car probably won't be repaired for another week, but I'll just drive dh's. I can get a rental through my insurance, but I'm not sure I want to. ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21722-just-when-i-thought-year-couldnt-get-any-worse.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21889-annoyed.html Mon, 19 Nov 2007 01:48:45 GMT I don't know what it is, but today I've just been in this generally annoyed mood. Everything seems to bother me today. Maybe it's the thought of going back to work tommorrow that has set me off. I still hate my job and don't anticipate it getting any better.:(

Yesterday I took the kids for holiday photos. It's a little late to get them out in time for Hannukah, but I figure I'll send out New Years cards. I took great pains to get Noah and Sari haircuts (Sari's first!), and to get everyone bathed and dressed pretty for the photos. The kids weren't cooperating too well, but we got several different poses and I figured that there would be at least a couple of decent ones. When I picked the proofs up today there were only about 15 pictures and they were all the same pose. They gave me some song and dance about the other poses, claiming that the photographer never snapped any during those poses. Ridiculous! Dh and I were standing right there watching her take them. I'm sure that they screwed something up and lost the pictures. They suggested I come back for another sitting when I complained. Yeah right! Like I'm going to go through that again! First of all, there isn't enough time to get them in and still get cards out by the end of next month. Not only that, but the free sitting that they offered me is stupid because I belong to their club and already get free sittings. When I go in to place the order I plan to speak to the manager. They better give me some kind of discount on the cards. ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/21889-annoyed.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/22394-thinking-setting-up-my-brother.html Thu, 08 Nov 2007 22:47:50 GMT Have you ever set up one of your friends with a relative? I have this friend at work and she is newly divorced with two young children. She has been dating this past year, but hasn't met anyone she likes particularly. My brother just turned 40 and has never been married. Don't ask me what possessed me, but I suggested seeing if he is interested in meeting her. Is it a mistake? ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/22394-thinking-setting-up-my-brother.html http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/22395-no-nap-bed.html Thu, 08 Nov 2007 22:45:09 GMT I spoke to the nanny a little while ago, and Sari wouldn't nap in her new bed today. She told me that Sari screamed until she finally put her back in the crib. Then she finally went to sleep. I guess it may take a few more days until she fully adjusts to sleeping in her bed. Maybe the new Dora sheets my mother bought her will help once we get them. ]]> 3pookies http://www.fertilethoughts.com/forums/blogs/3pookies/22395-no-nap-bed.html