Any Tips on dealing with Resentment?

[Deswife03]

"Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die." Carrie Fisher

I was just wondering how do you deal with resenting the "fertile myrtles" in your life. You know the women who just look at their dh and woops their pregnant. It can be so so so hard to not let resentment build up during the time that you are waiting. I think finding a way to deal with this while we are waiting to do treatment can go a long way and help "stay the course" when you want to give up.

Any suggestions or tips on how to deal with resentment?

[Deswife03]

I have been really struggling with resentment lately. So I have been trying to figure out a way to get this emotion out of me because I really really don't want to become a bitter person. The only thing that has helped me lately is my faith in God. I know that he has a plan for me and my DH and that he is not punishing me with infertility, and that just because others are getting pregnant so easily does not mean that one day he will not answer my prayers. I want it to be right now, and I hate that I have to wait but I have to trust that he knows more then I do and it will happen in the right time.

The other thing that has helped me with my resentment it that I have been allowing my self to feel sadness. When I hear of someone getting pregnant I allow my self to feel jealous and cry it out and then I move on.

[cabobaby]

Deswife - I can totally understand how you feel and its completely normal. I cried when my sil got pg and I felt really bad because she was so happy. It was their 1st. I guess we will just have to remember how blessed we are in other ways. I would rather be infertile than sick or suffering from a disease or starvation, etc. It also helps to go on boards like this because then you dont feel as alone.

Take care of ourselves first then maybe the babies will come.