Buddy Needs Some Love M/c & Birth Mentioned

lurker DH · 04-22-2005, 07:25 PM

Hello my friends,

Today Kim had a rough day. She is still greiving from our M/C in August
This is the month we would have been due.
Kim has a client that just gave birth to a baby girl. There EDD was the same, she called me @ work saying how she was going to dread going to work today. I said if it is going to bother you that much dont go to work today, its not worth it. So she did 1 job and then came home all upset and crying. I dont know how to react since it is different for me. I do know that she is very upset and I know the YA-YAS will understand more than I. I really think she needs some YA YA Hugs and understanding, and love since I can not understand the gender divide is too great for me.

Lets show her how much we love and undertstand our sister.

Mike

jbourke · 04-22-2005, 07:36 PM

Kim (and Mike too!)

I am sorry to know that your are hurting the way you are. This whole silly battle is just so darn unfair. It is ok to feel the way you do. Please know that. We are here for you. Cry, vent, get angry.... whatever you need to do. That is what the ya-ya's are all about.

Jo

Sweetypye · 04-22-2005, 07:43 PM

Hugggssss for you both

Basilissa · 04-22-2005, 07:50 PM

Big hugs for you both.

I'm sorry that Kim is hurting (and you too). Just hold her.

nandu · 04-22-2005, 07:54 PM

It's just isn't fair Kim!! Aaaaaghhhh! I can so feel your pain (1 week from today will be 3 years for me). I wish I could give you a great big hug right now. Surround yourself with ya-ya hugs and let us protect you from the "outside world." At least for a little while.

And you know what I say, Cry if you want to.....

Love and hugs,
Rhea

And Mike, even if you don't understand, it is so obvious that you care. Love ya for that!

:

NicoleK · 04-23-2005, 06:08 AM

Oh you guys,

I know how hard this is and how much it stings, but never forget that we are here with you.

I like what Rhea said. Feel our hugs, and let us protect you as best we can.

Nicole

**BC-KarenS-MI** · 04-23-2005, 07:42 AM

My heart aches for the pain that you each feel, even though they may be on different levels.

Kim, I know that yesterday must have been SO very difficult for you, but you're strong & you made it through the dark days. I know that your heart is aching for what should have been, but you have an absolutely wonderful, wonderful man who loves you & together, you guys WILL become parents!! What a blessed child it will be to have you both for parents!! Hang in there sweetie!!

Mike, YOU are a true gem. Although you admit that you didn't know how to handle the situation, it's SO totally obvious how deeply you love Kim & how much you only want the best for her. You are terrific!! Keep loving her, keep being there for her & know that your day will come, when you both will be gazing into the eyes of your precious, long awaited for child!!!

Be good to yourselves this weekend & hold each other close!!!

Karen

HopesPromise · 04-23-2005, 07:57 AM

I couldn't say it any better, Karen.

Love and prayers to you both

little t · 04-23-2005, 08:57 AM

Oh Man.... Can I just say "Ditto" to what Karen wrote?

What a wonderful, loving couple you both are! I pray that you all can just hold on to one another through this difficult time and just keep on keeping the Faith!!

You WILL have that baby to call your own..

hopeing41 · 04-23-2005, 09:42 AM

04-22-2005, 07:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
lurker DH Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NY Posts: 971	Buddy Needs Some Love M/c & Birth Mentioned Hello my friends, Today Kim had a rough day. She is still greiving from our M/C in August This is the month we would have been due. Kim has a client that just gave birth to a baby girl. There EDD was the same, she called me @ work saying how she was going to dread going to work today. I said if it is going to bother you that much dont go to work today, its not worth it. So she did 1 job and then came home all upset and crying. I dont know how to react since it is different for me. I do know that she is very upset and I know the YA-YAS will understand more than I. I really think she needs some YA YA Hugs and understanding, and love since I can not understand the gender divide is too great for me. Lets show her how much we love and undertstand our sister. Mike __________________ Mike Buddy's DH Last edited by lurker DH; 04-23-2005 at 05:22 AM.

04-22-2005, 07:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
jbourke Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Near Toronto Canada Posts: 2,580	Kim (and Mike too!) I am sorry to know that your are hurting the way you are. This whole silly battle is just so darn unfair. It is ok to feel the way you do. Please know that. We are here for you. Cry, vent, get angry.... whatever you need to do. That is what the ya-ya's are all about. Jo __________________ Me 30 DH 37 TTC 4.5 yrs 5 IUI's & a LAP in 04 (endo) ALL BFN IVF # 1 Aug 05 BFN (5 frozen) FET#1 Sept 06 BFN. LOW LAD elevated NK cells. IVIg, Prednisone & had LIT on Nov 1st. Last FET approx Nov 23/06 Then we are done and moving to adoption! Mademoiselle of all clarinet players & scrap booking who’s a wonderful mommy to 2 furdoggies and 1 furkitty whom will defeat IF from Toronto people.

04-22-2005, 07:43 PM	#3 (permalink)
Sweetypye 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Canada, Ontario Posts: 1,824 Blog Entries: 39	Hugggssss for you both __________________ Me 35 Pookie (Dh) 33 IVF/ICSI #1 & 2 BFN #3 BFP, 3wks of joy YaYa "Majesty Goddess of supporter’s to people w/ special needs who enjoys romance & suspense novels & geocaching whom will IF from Ontario"~Faith~FET BFP u/s 11/18 Its a !!!

04-22-2005, 07:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
nandu 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Quebec City Posts: 6,110	It's just isn't fair Kim!! Aaaaaghhhh! I can so feel your pain (1 week from today will be 3 years for me). I wish I could give you a great big hug right now. Surround yourself with ya-ya hugs and let us protect you from the "outside world." At least for a little while. And you know what I say, Cry if you want to..... Love and hugs, Rhea And Mike, even if you don't understand, it is so obvious that you care. Love ya for that! : Last edited by nandu; 04-22-2005 at 07:58 PM.

04-23-2005, 07:42 AM	#7 (permalink)
BC-KarenS-MI Board Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Michigan Posts: 28,043	My heart aches for the pain that you each feel, even though they may be on different levels. Kim, I know that yesterday must have been SO very difficult for you, but you're strong & you made it through the dark days. I know that your heart is aching for what should have been, but you have an absolutely wonderful, wonderful man who loves you & together, you guys WILL become parents!! What a blessed child it will be to have you both for parents!! Hang in there sweetie!! Mike, YOU are a true gem. Although you admit that you didn't know how to handle the situation, it's SO totally obvious how deeply you love Kim & how much you only want the best for her. You are terrific!! Keep loving her, keep being there for her & know that your day will come, when you both will be gazing into the eyes of your precious, long awaited for child!!! Be good to yourselves this weekend & hold each other close!!! Karen __________________ ttc #1 for 7 1/2 years ~ IVF #1, 6-93, cancelled; IVF#2/rescue ICSI- 7-99, failed ~(switched RE's) ZIFT/ICSI- 1-00, successful w/twins, lost 1 at 8w ~ ZIFT/ICSI #2, to try for #2- March '03- successful ~ GS- IVF #1, 7-05 failed. FET 10-05- BFP, m/c 5w5d

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04-22-2005, 07:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
Basilissa 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 6,903	Big hugs for you both. I'm sorry that Kim is hurting (and you too). Just hold her.

04-23-2005, 06:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
NicoleK Registered User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Southern Ontario Posts: 4,572	Oh you guys, I know how hard this is and how much it stings, but never forget that we are here with you. I like what Rhea said. Feel our hugs, and let us protect you as best we can. Nicole

04-23-2005, 07:57 AM	#8 (permalink)
HopesPromise 10000-15000 post ace of hearts Join Date: May 2003 Location: NY Posts: 12,253	I couldn't say it any better, Karen. Love and prayers to you both __________________ Peggy Jeff Princess Cora 5 years old (miracle of domestic adoption)

04-23-2005, 08:57 AM	#9 (permalink)
little t 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: May 2002 Location: Louisville KY Posts: 1,751	Oh Man.... Can I just say "Ditto" to what Karen wrote? What a wonderful, loving couple you both are! I pray that you all can just hold on to one another through this difficult time and just keep on keeping the Faith!! You WILL have that baby to call your own.. __________________ Tara Four IVF's, 3 FET's Last and final transfer BFP!!! Isaac Lee born 01/27/2008!!!!! DH-Chris I'm a YaYa!! http://www.babyjellybeans.com/web/do...home?ID=243355 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. Mark 11:24

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