A rather bittersweet day - (death, prev. neo natal death & birth ment)

[Anira]

quite a long post - sorry

Oh my dear ya-ya's

Please forgive me for not being as "active" as I should be on the BB.
I've been sooo busy, at work and at home. Work, I'm glad to say, is turning out quite well - I'm really starting to enjoy it.

DH & I have decided to do renovations to our house this year. We've been busy consulting builders, and tilers, and capenters... I'm tired already, and the actual renovations have not even started.

We got some real sad news yesterday evening - My aunt (58y.o.) passed away VERY suddenly! Other than being diabetic, she was in real good health. Very active, going on regular walks, she was the chairperson of the Women's Club in our area.
She complained that she was battling to breathe, and before the paramedics could arrive, she passed away - in her son's arms! The doctors have cited that she died of a massive heart attack.

It's all so sad...

...and then, this morning, I get a call from my cousin (she was my "life support" during my IVF treatment)

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My cousin has PCOS. 4 years ago, she had the GIFT procedure done, and 4 eggs were transferred. She was pg with triplets, but lost them @ 5 months due to PML.

A year later, she tried GIFT again, and this time the RE transferred 5 eggs (I sometimes wonder if he knew what he was doing!) Of the 5, 4 took. Unfortunately, at 26 weeks, she went into PML, and delivered all 4 babies. One baby was stillborn. Her other 3 babies were in NICU. When they were 7 days old, 2 of them went on to be angels.
There was just Baby D left. My poor cousin and DH put all their strength into Baby D, whilst at the same time, trying to mourn their other babies.
Baby D passed away when she was 17 days old.

As if things could get any worse, my cousin's Mom was diagnosed with brain cancer 6 months after the babies passed away.
Her body finally succumbed to the cancer, and she passed away last June.

Anyway, as I was saying, my cousin called me this morning. She just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl early today. No IF treatment, no injections, nothing - just a surprise miracle pregnancy...and a beautiful baby!

Oh... how the cycle of life and death continues...just like the ebb and flow of the ocean's waves!

If you wonderful ladies have managed to read this far, I thank you for letting me ramble on.

Lotsa love
Anira

[annialli]

Anira,

Although it was a very tragic story, thank you for sharing with us , . . I know it couldn't have been easy.
I think it is a good reminder to all of us to not taking anything or anyone for granted. Life is way too short and precious to waste any time sweating the small stuff.

I know you have sent me into my day with a different (more positive) outlook today . . . I am going to stop and smell the proverbial roses every chance I get.

My prayers do go out to your cousin and your family, what a tragic time they have had to endure over the last year or two.

[jbourke]

Sweety, your story made me cry. But it is so true that it really is a cycle that we live in. May we all enjoy the full circle, but not before we are ready.

Congrats to your cousin, she is an inspiration to us all. And big to you.

Jo

[nandu]

Thanks for sharing this Anira.

I'm truly sorry for all the heartache and loss that your cousin and her family went through. No one should have to live through that. But I am grateful for the poignant reminder that life is a cycle. Sometimes we do forget.

So sorry about your aunt. My dad is also diabetic and I worry about these things (particularly since he does not take such good care of himself).

Hugs,
Rhea

[AMC]

Anira

I'm so sorry for the losses that your cousin has suffered but I'm so happy that she has her miracle child. I'm sorry for the loss of your aunt as well... such a shame when she was not seriously ill
Thanks for sharing... and causing us to be thankful for what we have.

Ann

[MIliyMoy]

Anira,
I am happy to see an update from you!!! You have been missed.......

Thank you for sharing your cousin's heart felt story with us all!!!

Though life is a circle, I am sad for the loss of your aunt while we also celebrate the birth of your cousin's child!!!


Thanks Again

[leighmarker]

Sometimes it takes true life stories like yours to remind me how thankful I should be about the family I have and the life that I have been given. Thanks for the wake up call!
Celesta

[HopesPromise]

OMG. What your family has been through. My dear, there is so much pain and despair and loss in your post. But there is also hope and new life.

Much love to you,
Peggy

[momwannabe]

I'm so sorry about your aunt. My prayers are with you and your family.

Thanks for sharing the story of your cousin. It made me cry both tears of sadness and then of joy. I'm so happy she got her miracle.

Hope you're doing OK.

Robin

[BC-KarenS-MI]

SO much tragedy for your family. It really makes you stop & remind yourself not to take your loved ones for granted. I know it must be hard for you, but thank you for sharing your story with us. It's good to "see" you again!

Karen