very slow beta rise, need positive stories

mellymel · 06-15-2007, 02:24 AM

Did a single FET and had a positive preg test day 14. levels so far are very scary, but they want me to have one more, but are saying it probably won't continue. i have a 3 yo and 6 yo (both girls) and we really want a third.

day 14 - hcg 76, prog 123
day 15 - hcg 91
day 16 - hcg 106, prog 135

and so i have to wait 2 days now (day 18) to have another blood.

obviously the numbers haven't even close to doubled, is there any hope??? any unusual success stories would be greatly appreciated as well as similar stories, thanks so much

kygirl · 06-15-2007, 11:06 AM

wow, reginaco, that was harsh. melly was asking a valid question and didn't deserve to be bashed. just because someone has a child doesn't mean that they can't want another. (and I'm a childless vet, so I'm not talking about myself. but I don't like seeing people be mean to someone else.)

melly, I'm sorry your betas aren't rising very fast. I hope the next one gives you some answers.

jadjard · 06-15-2007, 11:30 AM

Mellymel,
I have no words of wisdom for you, just HUGS

I feel for what you are going through. I had a chemical my first IVF after having my DD. It was very hard. My numbers were much lower than yours (started at 11). As hard as it is, please stay strong!!

And PLEASE ignore others who have mean things to say about you wanting to have more kids. You have every right to be here and post concerns even if you had 10 children. Just because you have children doesn't make you stop longing for another one. And NO ONE can tell you how to feel and that you should be happy with what you have. I'm sure you are grateful every day for the other two you have, but it doesn't change how you feel about wanting a third.

Hang in there!!
Jessica

hjfeather · 06-15-2007, 12:21 PM

mellymel,
Just wanted to say that there is hope...you may have seen my thread starting in May regarding my betas rising but not doubling. We just had our fourth u/s on Wed. June 13th and it showed the baby moving around...practically waving at us. We're still early but at 10wks we are starting to enjoy it a little. The nurses told us it was an early loss after the 3rd beta didn't double. Each time the little embryo measured on target with a good hrtbeat. The only difference between us is that we did a fresh transfer.

During this stressful period my mom brought up a really good point, most pregnant women do not test their blood levels as closely as they do for IF. Who knows how many women end up with viable pregs. and have slow rising betas?

My thoughts are with you and your family.

hjfeather/Heather

AnneZ · 06-15-2007, 01:23 PM

Mellymel,

Looks like we're in the same boat. I had IVF and my betas have been...

day 14 - hcg 85
day 16 - hcg 100
day 18 - hcg 156

No more beta tests...I'm going for u/s this Mon. 6/18. Finding this message board has saved my sanity. I have found other posts with betas not doubling that have given me hope. I have also read that about 15% of pregnancies don't have doubling betas.

Best of luck!

AnneZ

Jane239 · 06-15-2007, 02:09 PM

MellyMel and Anne Z - So sorry you're both in beta hell. It stinks!! I was there once. My numbers (all two days apart) were: 181, 232, 361, 892. They didn't come close to doubling until the fourth one. That baby is now 2 years old! My RE decided that I had a vanishing twin, so one baby's numbers were going up while the other baby's numbers were going down, thus causing the funky, non-doubling pattern. In spite of the time that's gone by I remember the stress and emotion as if it was yesterday. Hang in there and keep the faith. Those little beans need mama thinking positive thoughts about them!!

And definitely ignore the negative comments. You are totally justified in feeling scared and upset regardless of whether or not you already have children.

JAS · 06-15-2007, 02:30 PM

Mellymel, Every life is precious, and no one wants to lose a baby. I am sorry your betas are a little low. Hoping for a miracle and good rise in the days to come.

Also, I have five adopted children and would like to have one myself. People could tell me to just be happy, but the fact is that everyone here has a right to want a child, and the pain is not any less because you have children already. This board is never meant to attack one another, it is for support only so if you cannot give that, this is not the board for you. We all have suffered pain from IF, some more than others, but that is life. We are all here to help one another get through the tough times, and be happy for those that succeed.

Best of wishes Melllymel, keep us posted.

B · 06-15-2007, 02:41 PM

Hang in there Mellymel. We're all pulling for you and I've heard so many similar stories on this board over the years that have turned out great. I will keep you in my thoughts. AnneZ, you too.

Reginaco, You should be ashamed of your response. I've responded to every one of your desperate posts for help, reassurance and empathy and I and others have been very supportive of you. Just because someone has a child or children already doesn't make this less painful, TRUST ME. That was a selfish and immature response and you should consider an apology. I am not usually this forceful or brave (however in real life I would say it to you as well so no one thinks the cover of on-line makes me brave) but what you said to Melly didn't only hurt her, but others in the same situation. What happened to bonding together on a "support" board to help one another through.

I know you're going through a rough time too. Everyone on an infertility BB probably is, right? But I don't recall anyone responding to you in such a negative way. I've said my peace and continue to wish you well and will be supportive. Please relax. This stress is not good whether you are pregnant or not.

Brandi

mellymel · 06-15-2007, 03:25 PM

Wow, how can I reply to such overwhelmingly beautiful people!!!
I suppose we don't all exactly know each other's histories. I was straight up about my situation as I like to be honest. Our two girls are IVF and I feel blessed and in love with them every day of my life & with every fibre of my being. It has been a very difficult journey and we're on it again, never an easy road... I have pretty bad anxiety too.
I thought I'd check this thread once more, and when I saw your replies, tears whelled up in my eyes, and the support I feel from you all is astounding! I had to call my husband over to read your replies to show him, once again, how amazing women are, (aren't we)... He is a wonderful support too, but worries about me becoming obsessed, as i have a tendency to, and it's hard not to, coz we all want it to work out. AnneZ thank you for sharing your situation. I will be hoping hard for you that your numbers RIIIIISE. Look at it this way, at least we've gotten to this point, it's better than not having implanted. Thanks so so much, and best of luck to everyone here, Mel

kygirl · 06-15-2007, 05:37 PM

melly, that's wonderful that you were able to see the caring in this post. I hated the thought that you would come back and see just the one mean thing someone wrote. I love that everyone took care of you and made you feel welcome and cared for. that's the whole point of these boards and I'm glad you were able to experience it.

anneZ, good luck to you with your u/s on monday. I hope that you and melly get excellent results!

I'm in the early stages of my own 2ww for my seventh IVF cycle so I'm definitely appreciative of the supportive ladies on these boards!

06-15-2007, 02:24 AM	#1 (permalink)
mellymel Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 7	very slow beta rise, need positive stories Did a single FET and had a positive preg test day 14. levels so far are very scary, but they want me to have one more, but are saying it probably won't continue. i have a 3 yo and 6 yo (both girls) and we really want a third. day 14 - hcg 76, prog 123 day 15 - hcg 91 day 16 - hcg 106, prog 135 and so i have to wait 2 days now (day 18) to have another blood. obviously the numbers haven't even close to doubled, is there any hope??? any unusual success stories would be greatly appreciated as well as similar stories, thanks so much

06-15-2007, 02:30 PM	#7 (permalink)
JAS 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Sunny CA Posts: 1,271	Mellymel, Every life is precious, and no one wants to lose a baby. I am sorry your betas are a little low. Hoping for a miracle and good rise in the days to come. Also, I have five adopted children and would like to have one myself. People could tell me to just be happy, but the fact is that everyone here has a right to want a child, and the pain is not any less because you have children already. This board is never meant to attack one another, it is for support only so if you cannot give that, this is not the board for you. We all have suffered pain from IF, some more than others, but that is life. We are all here to help one another get through the tough times, and be happy for those that succeed. Best of wishes Melllymel, keep us posted. __________________ ME ~ 43 DH ~ 44 3~ BOYS 2~ GIRLS DX -Immune issues

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06-15-2007, 11:06 AM	#2 (permalink)
kygirl Registered User Join Date: May 2007 Location: Kentucky Posts: 82	wow, reginaco, that was harsh. melly was asking a valid question and didn't deserve to be bashed. just because someone has a child doesn't mean that they can't want another. (and I'm a childless vet, so I'm not talking about myself. but I don't like seeing people be mean to someone else.) melly, I'm sorry your betas aren't rising very fast. I hope the next one gives you some answers.

06-15-2007, 11:30 AM	#3 (permalink)
jadjard 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: somewhere Posts: 352	Mellymel, I have no words of wisdom for you, just HUGS I feel for what you are going through. I had a chemical my first IVF after having my DD. It was very hard. My numbers were much lower than yours (started at 11). As hard as it is, please stay strong!! And PLEASE ignore others who have mean things to say about you wanting to have more kids. You have every right to be here and post concerns even if you had 10 children. Just because you have children doesn't make you stop longing for another one. And NO ONE can tell you how to feel and that you should be happy with what you have. I'm sure you are grateful every day for the other two you have, but it doesn't change how you feel about wanting a third. Hang in there!! Jessica

06-15-2007, 12:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
hjfeather 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: MA Posts: 22	mellymel, Just wanted to say that there is hope...you may have seen my thread starting in May regarding my betas rising but not doubling. We just had our fourth u/s on Wed. June 13th and it showed the baby moving around...practically waving at us. We're still early but at 10wks we are starting to enjoy it a little. The nurses told us it was an early loss after the 3rd beta didn't double. Each time the little embryo measured on target with a good hrtbeat. The only difference between us is that we did a fresh transfer. During this stressful period my mom brought up a really good point, most pregnant women do not test their blood levels as closely as they do for IF. Who knows how many women end up with viable pregs. and have slow rising betas? My thoughts are with you and your family. hjfeather/Heather

06-15-2007, 01:23 PM	#5 (permalink)
AnneZ Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 8	Mellymel, Looks like we're in the same boat. I had IVF and my betas have been... day 14 - hcg 85 day 16 - hcg 100 day 18 - hcg 156 No more beta tests...I'm going for u/s this Mon. 6/18. Finding this message board has saved my sanity. I have found other posts with betas not doubling that have given me hope. I have also read that about 15% of pregnancies don't have doubling betas. Best of luck! AnneZ

06-15-2007, 02:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
Jane239 200-299 post 4 of hearts Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 210	MellyMel and Anne Z - So sorry you're both in beta hell. It stinks!! I was there once. My numbers (all two days apart) were: 181, 232, 361, 892. They didn't come close to doubling until the fourth one. That baby is now 2 years old! My RE decided that I had a vanishing twin, so one baby's numbers were going up while the other baby's numbers were going down, thus causing the funky, non-doubling pattern. In spite of the time that's gone by I remember the stress and emotion as if it was yesterday. Hang in there and keep the faith. Those little beans need mama thinking positive thoughts about them!! And definitely ignore the negative comments. You are totally justified in feeling scared and upset regardless of whether or not you already have children.

06-15-2007, 02:41 PM	#8 (permalink)
B 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 6,042	Hang in there Mellymel. We're all pulling for you and I've heard so many similar stories on this board over the years that have turned out great. I will keep you in my thoughts. AnneZ, you too. Reginaco, You should be ashamed of your response. I've responded to every one of your desperate posts for help, reassurance and empathy and I and others have been very supportive of you. Just because someone has a child or children already doesn't make this less painful, TRUST ME. That was a selfish and immature response and you should consider an apology. I am not usually this forceful or brave (however in real life I would say it to you as well so no one thinks the cover of on-line makes me brave) but what you said to Melly didn't only hurt her, but others in the same situation. What happened to bonding together on a "support" board to help one another through. I know you're going through a rough time too. Everyone on an infertility BB probably is, right? But I don't recall anyone responding to you in such a negative way. I've said my peace and continue to wish you well and will be supportive. Please relax. This stress is not good whether you are pregnant or not. Brandi

06-15-2007, 03:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
mellymel Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 7	Wow, how can I reply to such overwhelmingly beautiful people!!! I suppose we don't all exactly know each other's histories. I was straight up about my situation as I like to be honest. Our two girls are IVF and I feel blessed and in love with them every day of my life & with every fibre of my being. It has been a very difficult journey and we're on it again, never an easy road... I have pretty bad anxiety too. I thought I'd check this thread once more, and when I saw your replies, tears whelled up in my eyes, and the support I feel from you all is astounding! I had to call my husband over to read your replies to show him, once again, how amazing women are, (aren't we)... He is a wonderful support too, but worries about me becoming obsessed, as i have a tendency to, and it's hard not to, coz we all want it to work out. AnneZ thank you for sharing your situation. I will be hoping hard for you that your numbers RIIIIISE. Look at it this way, at least we've gotten to this point, it's better than not having implanted. Thanks so so much, and best of luck to everyone here, Mel

06-15-2007, 05:37 PM	#10 (permalink)
kygirl Registered User Join Date: May 2007 Location: Kentucky Posts: 82	melly, that's wonderful that you were able to see the caring in this post. I hated the thought that you would come back and see just the one mean thing someone wrote. I love that everyone took care of you and made you feel welcome and cared for. that's the whole point of these boards and I'm glad you were able to experience it. anneZ, good luck to you with your u/s on monday. I hope that you and melly get excellent results! I'm in the early stages of my own 2ww for my seventh IVF cycle so I'm definitely appreciative of the supportive ladies on these boards!