first ultrasound

[sil]

i did my u/s yesterday , 7weeks 1 day , and its not good at all she saw a sac its on the right side of the uturus , do mu know why ??is it because the embryo was placed wrong , or is it because i sleep on my right side so it moved.
in the sac she didn't see a fetus , she thought that she saw some shades of fetus but it might be in its first development , and no heart beat.
this will be my 3rd misscarige after 1st in 2001, and second last november ( iui / stims) and this one ivf.
i don't know what to do or say , anyone knows why???
what tests i should do to know why i'm misscarying ???
and is there any hope of me having a good pregnancy after all these losses, can i achieve pregnancy to term or its hard , do u have a success story of pregnancy after man miscriages????
i don't know whats going on with me .
help me please
sillia

[Monica2]

Dear Sillia -- I'm so sorry hon. At 7w that is not a good US, as I know you know. Did your doctor hold out any hope? I think the absolute deadline (such as it is) for an HB may be 8w. I'm sure whatever is happening had nothing to do with how you slept. After all the treatment and longing and loss I know you've been through, this is really tough news to get. Take the time to take care of yourself now. There is some testing you should get -- for antibodies (blood test) and if you have a D&C of the tissue they remove to see if there was a chromosomal abnormality. That is the cause of most losses. I myself had 4 early losses before my last successful pg. There is definitely hope. Push your doctors to do every test they can think of -- you might want genetic testing of yourself just to rule that out (DH and I had that). No matter what though sweetie, I know it hurts like you can't believe. Take good care of yourself and just keep breathing. As Winston Churchill said, if you're going through hell, keep going.

[Winterlily]

Oh Sillia, I'm so sorry it went like that. Did they make an appointment for you to have another ultrasound?

Hang in there, we're all here for you whenever you need us.

Samantha

[3XMAMAWANNABE]

OH no! I am SOOOOO sorry! I have only had one m/c and it was earlier, but I do know a lady who had 3 m/c and they did some testing and found out that her body was treating the embryos like a foreign body. She ended up taking heperin injections for about the first 10 weeks of her next pregnancy. She is due next month and the pregnancy has been perfect. She said that she did have to pay for the testing out of pocket and that it was expensive, but obviously no regrets on their part.

I hope that you get some answers soon, and again... very sorry!


Isabella

[sil]

now i'm getting more and more comfort that plenty of woman who have had several misscariage they are able to carry a baby to full term ,this means that if my baby have chromoson issue doesn't mean that my second will ???
i don't know what to think or say but i will stay positive , and thank you again for your support .
tuesday is my second ultrasound to see if a miracle happens .
sillia

[jenbethk]

Sil,
I wish your u/s had gone better yesterday! I have been through that exactly and I truly feel your pain and worry! I hope things turn around for you on Tuesday! I'll be praying for you!!

Jen :

[dcboo]

Sillia,

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. I've had three early losses myself, so I know how hard it is. I recently read a really great book that gave me a lot of hope. It's called "Coming to Term: Uncovering the Truth About Miscarriage," by Jon Cohen. I highly recommend it. One of the quotes on the cover is that 70% of women who miscarry (even if they've had 3 or more in a row) will ultimately carry to term in the future.

Have hope!!
-Monica