New to the forum (pg ment.)

Maya_ttc · 08-21-2009, 11:00 AM

Hello!

I am new to this forum. After going through ttc for about 6 cycles, I can't go at it alone. DH is kind but doesn't understand what I am going through. I used to have a friend whom I could discuss these things with because she was TTC too. Now, she is in her sixth month of pregnancy and happy as a fiddle. She has completely forgotten how we used to console each other. She throws me a line or two out of pity and then goes on about her family, her happiness and excitement. I have so much resentment towards her. I want to be happy for her and sometimes I do manage it.

I want to talk to people who are going through the same journey, disappointments, waiting etc. as me otherwise I might lose my mind. Hope I make some friends here. Right now I am in the 2ww period.

**BC-Maura** · 08-21-2009, 04:27 PM

Welcome, Maya! I can relate to what you say about feeling alone in the "fertile world." When I was going through my IF, I didn't have anyone who could understand. People were getting pg all around me. After a while, I couldn't go to baby showers anymore. I hoped people would understand and they did (my true friends!).

I hope that we can make you feel less alone. Please come here ANYTIME to tell us how you are doing.... ask a question ... or just vent. We are here to listen.

Look forward to getting to know you!

Best of luck++++++++++++++
Maura

HolmesHX2 · 08-21-2009, 04:32 PM

Hi Maya,

Welcome to the boards sorry you've lost your support system it is soo hard to go through IF without a good support system in place. My husband tries the best he can but hes more of the "let me show up for my part" type of person lol. It gets really hard having someone to go through it with get pregnant they finally have their miracle and yes they do kind of forget about the pain and those still left back here dealing with their own IF. Good luck and lots of sticky vibes during your 2WW hopefully I will be on mine here soon. I go in for yet another u/s here in a few hours. Just know all the ladies on this sight are awesome support systems. What part of MI r u from if you dont mind me asking? Originally from Ohio here and lived in MI for awhile as well.

Maya_ttc · 08-21-2009, 04:55 PM

Thank you Maura. The 2ww is the worst because there is nothing much to do but wait.

Maya_ttc · 08-21-2009, 05:02 PM

HolmesHX2, thank you for the sticky vibes.. I am guessing its like 'baby dust'. I haven't heard it before.

I live in Troy now, but, we will be moving to Mississippi by the end of this month. I would so like this 2ww to end in a BFP so that I can start my life in the new place with positive vibes.. Does u/s mean ultra sound? I am really new at this, aren't I? So many silly questions. Hope everything goes well for you!

HolmesHX2 · 08-21-2009, 05:22 PM

Oh never a silly question first of all yes u/s is ultrasound one great thing I learned here is there is a button on the main page for acronyms and teaches you what almost everything means so you stay with the curve :-) sticky vibes are like babydust pretty much just hoping this egg is sticky and implants to give you your BFP. I used to Live in flint not to far away. I really hope you get your BFP this month how far are you in the 2WW? I'm about to hopefully start my 2WW but not looking forward to it. I had a breakdown ont he military forums. First month on clomid hopefully first ovulation in 5 years of TTC and hubby is scheduled all month on back to back 24 hr duties so he'll pretty much never be home in order to catch OV and get pg UGH darn military sometimes.

**BC-DKNY** · 08-21-2009, 06:10 PM

hi maya and welcome to the boards!!

i can also totally relate to what you're saying. i truly had only one real life friend that i could talk to about IF. no one else in my life (including my own sisters) experienced IF and truly understood what i was going thru. they did however know i was going thru it, so when they flaunted their pgs in my face and would pass (what i thought were) exceptionally inconsiderate and selfish comments, i too became very resentful.

it's too bad that your friend has so quickly forgotten about what it's like to struggle. i can't speak for anyone else, but IF has made me extremely compassionate to anyone faced with the same thing. i feel quite the opposite in that i will NEVER forget what it was like!

i hope you stick around!! you will find a lot of comfort here!!

Maya_ttc · 08-22-2009, 11:53 AM

HolmesHX2, all the best of luck to both you and your husband. I hope that things will work out for you. My 2ww is not going good either. The temp are going up and down. I had a meltdown. Why is it that husbands are not equipped to handle meltdowns?

Your situation is tough. You are a really strong and courageous person to cope with it. I will keep you in my prayers. Sending you lots of babydust and sticky vibes too.

Dina, thank you for the welcome. I hope to put all these feelings behind me once I get my BFP but I definitely plan to stick around and encourage anyone who may be going through the sadness, pain and desperation that comes as part of the whole IF process. I really appreciate the support I have already received.

Thank you so much!

**BC-Maura** · 08-22-2009, 12:02 PM

Hi Maya, How much are your temps going down when they go down. It's totally fine for them to move around in the 2ww as long as they stay above your coverline. And even if they go down near your coverline, all could be well. Mine dipped TO my coverline three times in my 2ww when I was pg with my ds and I thought the cycle was a bust. I was wrong!

Are you charting online? If you want to post your temps, we'd be happy to look at them with you

.

All the best and keep us posted++++++++
Maura

HolmesHX2 · 08-22-2009, 12:19 PM

Maya sorry to hear your 2WW isnt going so well. Just keep having faith I know it's hard. Thank you for the kind words and I couldnt agree more about husbands being equipped for meltdowns. I found out today my follicles are still the same size and doc thinks that the meds might not have worked so guess no 2WW here :-( Called hubby to let him know what the dr. said and he didnt understand why I was down about it. Guess I cant put it into words for him its just the fact I already have something wrong with me and I know it shouldnt but kinda makes me feel like "less of a woman" so when they give me a medicine where the sole purpose is to ovulate and help those like me and it didnt work was just a bit of another slap in the face and he couldnt understand what it was all about he said we try a higher dose next month like the doc said and keep fighting not very helpful words lol.

08-21-2009, 11:00 AM	#1 (permalink)
Maya_ttc 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: michigan Posts: 33	New to the forum (pg ment.) Hello! I am new to this forum. After going through ttc for about 6 cycles, I can't go at it alone. DH is kind but doesn't understand what I am going through. I used to have a friend whom I could discuss these things with because she was TTC too. Now, she is in her sixth month of pregnancy and happy as a fiddle. She has completely forgotten how we used to console each other. She throws me a line or two out of pity and then goes on about her family, her happiness and excitement. I have so much resentment towards her. I want to be happy for her and sometimes I do manage it. I want to talk to people who are going through the same journey, disappointments, waiting etc. as me otherwise I might lose my mind. Hope I make some friends here. Right now I am in the 2ww period.

08-22-2009, 12:02 PM	#9 (permalink)
BC-Maura Board Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 12,945	Hi Maya, How much are your temps going down when they go down. It's totally fine for them to move around in the 2ww as long as they stay above your coverline. And even if they go down near your coverline, all could be well. Mine dipped TO my coverline three times in my 2ww when I was pg with my ds and I thought the cycle was a bust. I was wrong! Are you charting online? If you want to post your temps, we'd be happy to look at them with you. All the best and keep us posted++++++++ Maura

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08-21-2009, 04:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
BC-Maura Board Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 12,945	Welcome, Maya! I can relate to what you say about feeling alone in the "fertile world." When I was going through my IF, I didn't have anyone who could understand. People were getting pg all around me. After a while, I couldn't go to baby showers anymore. I hoped people would understand and they did (my true friends!). I hope that we can make you feel less alone. Please come here ANYTIME to tell us how you are doing.... ask a question ... or just vent. We are here to listen. Look forward to getting to know you! Best of luck++++++++++++++ Maura

08-21-2009, 04:32 PM	#3 (permalink)
HolmesHX2 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: South Korea right now Posts: 310	Hi Maya, Welcome to the boards sorry you've lost your support system it is soo hard to go through IF without a good support system in place. My husband tries the best he can but hes more of the "let me show up for my part" type of person lol. It gets really hard having someone to go through it with get pregnant they finally have their miracle and yes they do kind of forget about the pain and those still left back here dealing with their own IF. Good luck and lots of sticky vibes during your 2WW hopefully I will be on mine here soon. I go in for yet another u/s here in a few hours. Just know all the ladies on this sight are awesome support systems. What part of MI r u from if you dont mind me asking? Originally from Ohio here and lived in MI for awhile as well.

08-21-2009, 04:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
Maya_ttc 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: michigan Posts: 33	Thank you Maura. The 2ww is the worst because there is nothing much to do but wait.

08-21-2009, 05:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
Maya_ttc 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: michigan Posts: 33	HolmesHX2, thank you for the sticky vibes.. I am guessing its like 'baby dust'. I haven't heard it before. I live in Troy now, but, we will be moving to Mississippi by the end of this month. I would so like this 2ww to end in a BFP so that I can start my life in the new place with positive vibes.. Does u/s mean ultra sound? I am really new at this, aren't I? So many silly questions. Hope everything goes well for you!

08-21-2009, 05:22 PM	#6 (permalink)
HolmesHX2 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: South Korea right now Posts: 310	Oh never a silly question first of all yes u/s is ultrasound one great thing I learned here is there is a button on the main page for acronyms and teaches you what almost everything means so you stay with the curve :-) sticky vibes are like babydust pretty much just hoping this egg is sticky and implants to give you your BFP. I used to Live in flint not to far away. I really hope you get your BFP this month how far are you in the 2WW? I'm about to hopefully start my 2WW but not looking forward to it. I had a breakdown ont he military forums. First month on clomid hopefully first ovulation in 5 years of TTC and hubby is scheduled all month on back to back 24 hr duties so he'll pretty much never be home in order to catch OV and get pg UGH darn military sometimes.

08-22-2009, 11:53 AM	#8 (permalink)
Maya_ttc 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: michigan Posts: 33	HolmesHX2, all the best of luck to both you and your husband. I hope that things will work out for you. My 2ww is not going good either. The temp are going up and down. I had a meltdown. Why is it that husbands are not equipped to handle meltdowns? Your situation is tough. You are a really strong and courageous person to cope with it. I will keep you in my prayers. Sending you lots of babydust and sticky vibes too. Dina, thank you for the welcome. I hope to put all these feelings behind me once I get my BFP but I definitely plan to stick around and encourage anyone who may be going through the sadness, pain and desperation that comes as part of the whole IF process. I really appreciate the support I have already received. Thank you so much!

08-22-2009, 12:19 PM	#10 (permalink)
HolmesHX2 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: South Korea right now Posts: 310	Maya sorry to hear your 2WW isnt going so well. Just keep having faith I know it's hard. Thank you for the kind words and I couldnt agree more about husbands being equipped for meltdowns. I found out today my follicles are still the same size and doc thinks that the meds might not have worked so guess no 2WW here :-( Called hubby to let him know what the dr. said and he didnt understand why I was down about it. Guess I cant put it into words for him its just the fact I already have something wrong with me and I know it shouldnt but kinda makes me feel like "less of a woman" so when they give me a medicine where the sole purpose is to ovulate and help those like me and it didnt work was just a bit of another slap in the face and he couldnt understand what it was all about he said we try a higher dose next month like the doc said and keep fighting not very helpful words lol.