First RE Appt...

[Jennie6308]

I had my first RE appt today... We had originally gone because my DH had low motility (which may have more to do with how the first sample was provided- long story) but we'll see... I wasnt prepared to be on display and to have to do my own tests. He actually was not very nice at all. He told me flat out I had to stop BF all together and that my son didnt need it. He made me feel like a idiot for allowing my son to "control me" and BF even though its not for nutrional reasons.... He as much said that. Also, since Im BF, I ovulated (last cycle) at around day 28. And the previous cycle (I wasnt charting so I dont know the date) was 40 days as well so probably I o'd late too. Well, he told me that my eggs would be MUSH at that point and htat if we tried then I could pretty much guarentee a miscarriage, a baby with a chromosonal abnormatlity or a m/c from BF .... WTF?

Im crying so bad its not even funny. Sorry for the typos... My DH is being great about this but its just not enough.... I dont want to wean my son, but I want to be pg too... I dont know what to do ...


Jennie
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/cadensmom

[BC-DKNY]

oh jennie...i'm so sorry this doc made you feel this way. it amazes me how some docs lack the ppl skills they need. they ought to be locked up in a lab somewhere where there's no human contact!

looking at your chart from october it looks like you had a great cycle with a normal O date. it's true that research indicates that an O that occurs very late in the cycle doesn't usually produce healthy or viable eggs, but i didn't think that stopping BF would automatically correct that.

what were your cycles like before you had ds?

P.S. i would've been VERY offended if any dr. lectured me on BF and my child controlling me. i most likely would probably move on and try and find another doctor. this guy sounds extremely self righteous and arrogant!

[Jennie6308]

Hey Dina...

Thanks for your thoughts. We have decided to move on... He was just rude and unprofessional. My sons 15 months, so I guess according to this RE, that since hes past the magic 12 months, Im suppose to jsut wean him cold turkey! Whatever! I have been "gentle weaning" sense his birthday - you know getting a solid schedule of firs thing in the am, before each nap, before bed and the occassional middle of teh night (so 4-5 times a day) and I stopped nursign for comfort and bordom with his birthday... Then we did start doign "daddy rocks" for bed instead of BF... I am weaning jsut in my own time and in my DS own time.... I was just offended that this guy was like "get the kid off the breast now" Also, I showed him my chart and its funny that you say you see an O- so do I. FF says anywhere from day 15-17 depending on which method. TCOYF says no O... But I see it at day 15 myself.... THe RE said nope. He told m charting was a waste of time too... I think its just a bad fit....

Thanks for listening to my rant though- I was really upset... doign a bit better but Ill feel best when I got to someone else- or my DH does - as hes the one with teh bad test....

Jennie

[BC-DKNY]

jennie....first let me correct myself....i was looking at your sept chart when i said it looked great. i'm sorry for the confusion that was my mistake.

your oct chart looks a little iffy. you could've O'd on cd 17 with a temporary fallback. there is a shift there, it's just not as dramatic as the month before....KWIM?

i'm glad to hear you're moving on. he sounds like a real jackass. and when did RE's become experts in the field of BF?

[Jennie6308]

Dina- thats a really good point- hes not an expert in BF ... Thanks! Im feelign more and more impowered each passing minute about my decision to move on! Especially before Im lots of $$ into the hole with this ...

I do know what you mean about my cycle- I did ovulate really late (CD 28 in Sept...) so maybe thatll happen again this month
Jennie

Originally Posted by BC-DKNY

jennie....first let me correct myself....i was looking at your sept chart when i said it looked great. i'm sorry for the confusion that was my mistake.

your oct chart looks a little iffy. you could've O'd on cd 17 with a temporary fallback. there is a shift there, it's just not as dramatic as the month before....KWIM?

i'm glad to hear you're moving on. he sounds like a real jackass. and when did RE's become experts in the field of BF?