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awbaby · 02-23-2006, 02:33 PM

Ok girls I need some guidence here. DH is 26 and I am 27. Before we got married we had unprotected sex for about three years. We were just dumb. We have been together since highschool. So at the time we were glad that we had not gotten pg because we were not ready but it got us thinking that something was up. We even considered not getting married over it. Anyway i went to the dr and she sent me home saying nothing was wrong and I needed to give it a year of "really trying" before they could do anything. So i got the opk packs though I did not know how to use them correctly and we "really tried". Nothing so we had a year before we were to be married so we wanted to wait but we still tried. A year later we got married and still no pg. So we decieded as a couple to adopt before we figured out who was at fault. 5 years of trying 4 months of marriage and almost through the addoption process i got pg. My dd was born the 4th of july 2004. Of course she is the best so we want more. We started trying last August with no luck. I was hoping I was like so many women who have problems getting pg the first time and then they get pg right away the second time. Not so in my case. Since August I have been to the dr and she checked me out and said I was good to go. She checked my thyroid and it was good also. She wants me to wait the year out but that seems so long and such a wast of time. I want to go right now and have her fix me!! Last month I dramatically change my diet for the better and I started exercising and taking Fertility Blend. Also my husband takes fertiltiy Blend for men. I told myself I would take try this new life style for three months and then if still nothing I would go to the dr even though it will be less than a year. Now that I am a month in and only have 2 to go I feel like I am jumping the gun and I should wait the year out. On the other hand I do not want to see -hpt after -hpt because I have done that and it is not fun. Any advice you ladies have would be helpful. You gals are the best and I just need some reasurance.
thanks for letting me ramble.
angie

**BC-blu_sky** · 02-23-2006, 04:35 PM

Has you DH been checked also?

awbaby · 02-23-2006, 05:52 PM

No we both need to go!

**BC-blu_sky** · 02-23-2006, 06:23 PM

I would just demand it of your doc. You have a history, that should be good enough, if it isn't find a new doc.

JulieB2 · 02-23-2006, 06:44 PM

I agree. You have a history of infertility. I dont know about you but i really wouldnt want to gamble on another five years on a miracle pg if i was ready for one now. Good luck and definitely fire your dr if he isnt willing to atleast do the initial testing (SA, HSG etc) to make sure you arent wasting your time.

I would also start bbting to see if you have a clear shift and get a sense of when or if you ovulate. From that it should tell him something about your cycle and if you arent ovulating regularly then you are just wasting your time and increasing your frustration. Good luck! Let us know what you decide.

jules75 · 02-23-2006, 10:24 PM

Angie-I was thinking about our conversation tonight and I think you are right-we seem to have the same problem. Except I got pg w/Haley so quick-however I was 20 so maybe that helped. It seems that something at our generation in our family got screwed up. I don't think its possible that both our dh's would have a problem. It seems too much of a coincidence for it to be them. Besides Brian was tested and all was good so it would make more sense that the problem lies w/us. I am leaning towards our egg quality maybe. Is there a way to test that? I don't know. No matter what though-your dh needs to get tested just to rule it out. Be sure to be your own advocate w/your dr and be blunt and ask exactly what you want to know-write down questions. Be sure you tell her our family history!!! Good luck w/whatever you decide and know that I am here for you!! I see my dr in April and will be askig some questions of my own!!!

Julie

JulieB2 · 02-24-2006, 04:44 AM

Julie,

Uuuum! You have a daughter named Haley too?! LOL I'm getting freaked out!! (j/k heheh that is a coincidence tho!!)

**BC-blu_sky** · 02-24-2006, 06:14 AM

jules,

Don't be too surprised I have a friend, from here actually, and of she and her four cousins 3 need IVF as the only way to get pregnant and all three checked out. They just all three married people that had MF issues.

MF is a much more common problem than you think. It is almost even across the board as to which partner has that problem. Just get an SA and be sure.

KatieInOhio · 02-24-2006, 06:54 AM

HI Angie,
I would demand a quicker response from your dr. and start BBT'ing, or try the clearplan monitor, I love mine! Are you having average cycles? 28-32days?

jules75 · 02-24-2006, 10:46 AM

JulieB2-Yeah it is weird huh-the julie and the haley thing-what great names-heehee-great minds think alike right? Your daughter looks like a Haley-if you know what I mean. I almost named my daughter Anna-I am so glad I didn't because she is a total Haley.

Blu sky-I totally agree!! The first thing we did is have my dh do an SA-it came out perfect. I think that awbaby's dh definitely needs to get an SA done to rule it out. That is definitely an ironic thing about your friend and her cousins-wow!! It's so weird how IF seems to be everywhere yet so many people don't know how big of a problem it really is.

Julie

02-23-2006, 02:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
awbaby Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Oregon Posts: 388	dr Ok girls I need some guidence here. DH is 26 and I am 27. Before we got married we had unprotected sex for about three years. We were just dumb. We have been together since highschool. So at the time we were glad that we had not gotten pg because we were not ready but it got us thinking that something was up. We even considered not getting married over it. Anyway i went to the dr and she sent me home saying nothing was wrong and I needed to give it a year of "really trying" before they could do anything. So i got the opk packs though I did not know how to use them correctly and we "really tried". Nothing so we had a year before we were to be married so we wanted to wait but we still tried. A year later we got married and still no pg. So we decieded as a couple to adopt before we figured out who was at fault. 5 years of trying 4 months of marriage and almost through the addoption process i got pg. My dd was born the 4th of july 2004. Of course she is the best so we want more. We started trying last August with no luck. I was hoping I was like so many women who have problems getting pg the first time and then they get pg right away the second time. Not so in my case. Since August I have been to the dr and she checked me out and said I was good to go. She checked my thyroid and it was good also. She wants me to wait the year out but that seems so long and such a wast of time. I want to go right now and have her fix me!! Last month I dramatically change my diet for the better and I started exercising and taking Fertility Blend. Also my husband takes fertiltiy Blend for men. I told myself I would take try this new life style for three months and then if still nothing I would go to the dr even though it will be less than a year. Now that I am a month in and only have 2 to go I feel like I am jumping the gun and I should wait the year out. On the other hand I do not want to see -hpt after -hpt because I have done that and it is not fun. Any advice you ladies have would be helpful. You gals are the best and I just need some reasurance. thanks for letting me ramble. angie

02-23-2006, 06:44 PM	#5 (permalink)
JulieB2 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,607 Blog Entries: 10	I agree. You have a history of infertility. I dont know about you but i really wouldnt want to gamble on another five years on a miracle pg if i was ready for one now. Good luck and definitely fire your dr if he isnt willing to atleast do the initial testing (SA, HSG etc) to make sure you arent wasting your time. I would also start bbting to see if you have a clear shift and get a sense of when or if you ovulate. From that it should tell him something about your cycle and if you arent ovulating regularly then you are just wasting your time and increasing your frustration. Good luck! Let us know what you decide. __________________ Julie My one and only beautiful dd

02-24-2006, 04:44 AM	#7 (permalink)
JulieB2 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,607 Blog Entries: 10	Julie, Uuuum! You have a daughter named Haley too?! LOL I'm getting freaked out!! (j/k heheh that is a coincidence tho!!) __________________ Julie My one and only beautiful dd

02-24-2006, 06:54 AM	#9 (permalink)
KatieInOhio Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 596	HI Angie, I would demand a quicker response from your dr. and start BBT'ing, or try the clearplan monitor, I love mine! Are you having average cycles? 28-32days? __________________ Katie 1st IUI,at 5wks. 2nd IUI m/c at 5wks Third IUI, success, David Charles 1/22/03 #2 provera/clomid/Clearplan Monit. Donnie 9/22/04 Pregnant w/ #3! Due-6-25-07 http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/c8b1

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02-23-2006, 04:35 PM	#2 (permalink)
BC-blu_sky General Parenting Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: St. Louis Posts: 15,466 Blog Entries: 582	Has you DH been checked also?

02-23-2006, 05:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
awbaby Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Oregon Posts: 388	No we both need to go!

02-23-2006, 06:23 PM	#4 (permalink)
BC-blu_sky General Parenting Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: St. Louis Posts: 15,466 Blog Entries: 582	I would just demand it of your doc. You have a history, that should be good enough, if it isn't find a new doc.

02-23-2006, 10:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
jules75 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: oregon Posts: 1,546	Angie-I was thinking about our conversation tonight and I think you are right-we seem to have the same problem. Except I got pg w/Haley so quick-however I was 20 so maybe that helped. It seems that something at our generation in our family got screwed up. I don't think its possible that both our dh's would have a problem. It seems too much of a coincidence for it to be them. Besides Brian was tested and all was good so it would make more sense that the problem lies w/us. I am leaning towards our egg quality maybe. Is there a way to test that? I don't know. No matter what though-your dh needs to get tested just to rule it out. Be sure to be your own advocate w/your dr and be blunt and ask exactly what you want to know-write down questions. Be sure you tell her our family history!!! Good luck w/whatever you decide and know that I am here for you!! I see my dr in April and will be askig some questions of my own!!! Julie

02-24-2006, 06:14 AM	#8 (permalink)
BC-blu_sky General Parenting Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: St. Louis Posts: 15,466 Blog Entries: 582	jules, Don't be too surprised I have a friend, from here actually, and of she and her four cousins 3 need IVF as the only way to get pregnant and all three checked out. They just all three married people that had MF issues. MF is a much more common problem than you think. It is almost even across the board as to which partner has that problem. Just get an SA and be sure.

02-24-2006, 10:46 AM	#10 (permalink)
jules75 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: oregon Posts: 1,546	JulieB2-Yeah it is weird huh-the julie and the haley thing-what great names-heehee-great minds think alike right? Your daughter looks like a Haley-if you know what I mean. I almost named my daughter Anna-I am so glad I didn't because she is a total Haley. Blu sky-I totally agree!! The first thing we did is have my dh do an SA-it came out perfect. I think that awbaby's dh definitely needs to get an SA done to rule it out. That is definitely an ironic thing about your friend and her cousins-wow!! It's so weird how IF seems to be everywhere yet so many people don't know how big of a problem it really is. Julie