Spotting, worried & 1st OB appt...(long)

[AtoZduo]

Hi. Around 3:00 this morning I went to the bathroom and there it was... spottting. It was quite heavy. I wiped a couple of times and there was more.. Well DH has been out of town all week so there I was at 3 a.m. nervous and scared by myself.
I managed to lay back in bed and say a few prayers before falling back asleep at 5:00 a.m. I had my 1st OB appt. scheduled today with an OB I have never met. She is the only Peri in our area and came highly recommended. So.. knowing I had an appt. at 10:30 this morning I got up got dressed and tried not to "freak" out until then.
I told her about the spotting and that is was much heavier than it was when I had it for 3 days back when I was just 5 wks. along. She gave me an exam and said it was old blood and not to worry... Not to worry?? What??
At my RE's they would have rushed me into the u/s room and measured them, checked their size, hb's, etc... Well, I got nothing!
She acted like it was no big deal at all. She did pull out the doppler and found a heartbeat. It was great to hear it for the 1st time. However, she didn't even try to find the other ones hb...
I told her several times I was nervous and wished I could get an u/s to make sure they were BOTH o.k.... She said we would do one in 5 weeks..!!- and followed that by if one of your twins were dead then we wouldn't do anything about it anyway... WHAT? I am just being a crazy, over sensitive pregnant woman? I know she does this for a living and handles all high risk pregnancies in our area but.....???
Anyway, I left with mixed feelings. I am still spotting-(just light/dark brown) and I am not sure how they are doing....
also, I had gained 2 lbs back of the 5 I had lost since I became pregnant and today- I lost them back again.. of course, I had the lecture on needing to gain 1lb per wk. from now on especially with twins.. I know that. Each day it takes everything I have to eat what I can. I have had severe m/s until a couple wks back and now I have it in waves and no appetite...
Sorry for rambling. I guess I just need to hear that this has happened to others.. and if they were o.k. and when to worry..etc...etc... Should I call my RE's office?
I just don't know what to do...
Andrea

[LynnUS]

Oh you poor thing! I can't believe she's making you wait so long for an u/s! That is just nuts--you'll drive yourself insane with worry in the meantime.
I'd definitely try to get an u/s sooner just for peace of mind.

Take care,

Lynn
EDD: 8/1

[jeninsfca]

Andrea, I am so sorry your new Dr. was so cold. I wouldn't have liked her responses at all! I think her comment about the twins was out of line. If something were wrong with one of them, you would want to know, it's your body! I'm sure your babies are both just fine, but you need peace of mind after all you have been through. If you had a good relationship with your RE, I would try calling them.

As for your lack of appetite, are there any really calorie dense foods that sound good to you? Like peanut butter, avocado, cheese, nuts? That way you only have to eat a small amount to get a lot of calories and nutrients. My poor SIL had bad m/s with all 3 of her babies and finally found that she could handle avocado which is loaded with vitamins and good fats.

I'm so sorry you had a good day! I hope that you are feeling better soon.

[sarahp]

andrea...
what a beast that dr was! i'm so sorry her response to you were so cold. that's just not right....you're not being oversensitive at all. if you did have a good relationship with your RE, i'd give them a call. or how about your OB? or are you just seeing the peri? lots of hugs to you!
the other thing i wanted to add in on the nutritional front is that you could always try those nutritional shakes (boost/ensure/equate). they carry them at any drug store/walmart and they're loaded with nutritients and protein. they may not taste fantastic, but i have a lot of elderly pts who take them and they really help. i had one pt take the shake and mix it in the blender with some ice cream to make it taste better. just a thought!
take care!!

sarah

[lotus]

I can't believe how rude people at that clinic was to you! I really think you should have been treated with respect! You are not crazy...you are a concerned mom! You would think they would understand by now!

When I asked my peri about a home baby monitor, he advised against it. He said that he has seen people come in with *panic* cause they cannot find the HB(s). He said he would prefer if I came in every day and use their doppler (though I have not taken up that offer, been way too busy)! That is the kind of OB/peri that you need and deserve! Arg! I cant stand bad doctors!!!

Here's a *big* for you!

[BC-Christina~FL]

I can not believe that the doc would not do an u/s for you! I mean as far as ins goes if that is what they were worried about I would assume that spotting would be a good enough reason to do one!

I would call my RE, just to get peace of mind from a conversation with him/her.

Big hug!

[KristiL]

How scary! Yes, call your RE, just for your own peace of mind. And then find yourself a new OB.

Good luck! I hope everything is okay.

[punky]

I think what you described is totally normal. Although I have not experienced it, I have heard it from lots of girls here (as far as the spotting). I think we were all spoiled by our RE's and the peri's and ob's aren't as sensitive to our feelings. You're right, this is your body and her comment was rude and insensitive. I would call the RE just for some reassurance but try to know in your heart that the babies are doing great!! They are growing and stretching and trying to make room for themselves and in the meantime making you bleed a little.
Hang in there girl!! Your beans are depending on you to be strong and calm!!

Keep us posted!!

[Lindey]

that is exactly what my doctor said to me when i saw him, when i had been spotting, he said well if you are having a miscarriage then having a scan will not change it, if the bleeding becomes heavier then come back !!!!!?????????

i felt just like you, i thought ''great.........thanks for nothing!!!!''

i'm sure they are just fine, i think it is quite normal to bleed with 2, heck it is not abnormal to bleed with 1, a friend of mine bleed like a period every month till she gave birth, the doctor said it was because she was carrying a girl?

hang in there, like the others said it might be worth ringing your RE and seeing what they say?, it cant hurt.

[CHRISC]

Andrea I am so sorry you had to go through that. Call your Re's office. You need the peace of mind.
I am sending positive thoughts your way.
Chris