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I talked with my MIL this morning for a bit. She didn't breathe a word about her sister--and I didn't ask. I thought about it, and part of me wanted to, but then part of me wondered if she just wanted a more "normal" conversation, if that was a bit of a "respite" for her from the constant worrying?
I don't know . . . I want to be supportive of her in whatever way she needs. Somehow I need to let her know that--it's okay to talk about Aunt Toots . . . or not. Whatever she needs to do.
Sigh. This stuff. Stinks. (Choose whatever stronger word you would like . . . I have a dozen or so in my head right now.)
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02-17-2010, 01:41 PM #1
So how do I handle this?
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02-17-2010, 02:04 PM #2
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It meant the world to me hearing my family and friends offer their love and support when my BIL was diagnosed with terminal cancer and throughout his illness. In my opinion, I would express your prayers and thoughts to your MIL. Something like, "I can't begin to imagine what you are feeling about your sister's diagnosis. However, I want you to know we love you and we are here for you." Have R make her and his great-Aunt a card and send lots of hugs in it. I am sure his cards will give some much needed sunshine to both of them.
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02-17-2010, 02:22 PM #3
JAG&JIVRegistered User Over 5,000 Postis praying for Emily
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I agree that it is better to bring it up and be there if she wants to talk about it.
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02-17-2010, 02:37 PM #4
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I would make sure and tell her that you are available to talk and that you want to support her. But I wouldn't bring it up every conversation. Like you said, I'm sure it is nice sometimes to have conversations that are lighter in nature.
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02-18-2010, 07:39 AM #5
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Ditto to what D said!
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02-18-2010, 10:14 AM #6
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Agree with DM
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02-18-2010, 12:01 PM #7
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I agree that you should mention it.
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02-18-2010, 12:20 PM #8
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I think so too...it shows her that you are concerned about how she is feeling about it. Then maybe she will open up if and when she is ready.
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