How to Handle the 2WW

[mtroth]

Hi Everyone! I'm not sure how many of you are familiar with Anji.....she has fabulous meditation CDs and other tools for dealing with the emotionality of infertility. I receive her newsletter and thought that this advice was very helpful for those of us dealing with the dreaded 2WW.

"Question:

How do you maintain a positive attitude while in the waiting period after embryo transfer(for IVF cycle) and preparing yourself emotionally for a possible failure? After several failed cycles, it is too painful to not try to prepare oneself for a negative outcome. It's too painful to believe with all your heart that you are pregnant and then receive a call that you are not. I do use your IVF meditation CD and love it, but it gets harder the last few days to get into that zone of peace your meditation CD usually brings.

Answer:

Here's the question I ask my individual clients who have been through the ringer over and over again:

Where can you put your best focus?

Chances are, if you are someone who has been through believing and then getting negative results, focusing on "I'm pregnant" is going to be really hard.

How about a focus of:

I've done the best I know how to do.
I'm allowing my body to do the best it/she can do in this moment
I do what I can do and leave the rest to Spirit/God/Universe
No matter what happens, I'll find a way to be a Mother
I'm open to receiving the best outcome for this cycle

See if there's one of these that speaks to you or if it inspires a thought of your own.

Your body knows your desire is to get pregnant and have a healthy baby at the end of nine months. Your job--from a Mind~Body perspective--is to find a way to have thoughts that match this desire.

Focusing on "I'm pregnant," when you've had a lot of experience to prove that it isn't a certainty that you are, now puts your thoughts in direct conflict with your desire. You find yourself resisting the thoughts you are thinking and not being able to get into the flow that was easier to find during the first part of your cycle.

You want to pick a thought that leaves you feeling open and connected with your body--not fighting it.

No matter where you are in your cycle right now, begin to think about what your best focus can be."

[Nova]

Very nice -- I like the advice to pick a thought that leaves you feeling open, and not feeling like you're fighting with your body. Very positive.

[mtroth]

I totally agree, Nova. Too often we hear that we are to assume that we are pregnant.....but, I personally have had the experience of what Anji is talking about.....I start to resist that thought due to past experience.

My favorite is "I've done/am doing the absolute best that I know how to do." I will use that from now on.

[babywarrior]

Thank you for this.
I have been trying to find a good stress-release system, and I checked into Anji. I am thinking of ordering some audios. Are there specific ones you recommend? I wasn't sure if I should go with the Relief Now or the Meditation CDs.

[mtroth]

Hi babywarrior,

I haven't personally used the Relief Now CDs, but I've used MANY of her meditation CDs and they are absolutely wonderful. I've used her general health ones, medicated cycle, IVF, and Fertile Soul CDs. ALL of them are awesome, but I particularly enjoy the Fertile Soul CDs since I'm not doing anymore ART. I really enjoyed the IVF CDs when I was going through my cycles. Enjoy!

-Maria