Introduction

[soccermom]

Hi Everyone,
I just wanted to introduce myself and tell a little about my history. My dh and I ttc'd for about three years when I emotionally could not handle it anymore. DH and I made the decision to move to adoption, although it took dh a lot longer than me. We completed a domestic adoption and adopted dd at birth. She is now 7 and is such a blessing to us. I am here to help or answer any questions.
:hugs: to everyone

[sharbear]

Hi Soccermom,

Thank you for offering your support, there are many of us who are now in the shoes you were in. DH and I completed all our agency's requiremets, and are now in the waiting period. How did you find out about your dd? Was the bm someone who picked you through your agency or through a friend, etc?

Shar

[soccermom]

Hi Shar,
We went through an agency where dd's birthmom picked us through our profile. We were asked if we wanted to be presented to the birthmom, the following week we found out we were chosen and the week after that she was born.

Are you going through an agency, facilitator, or on your own? Are you doing any other networking? Please keep me posted, I am excited to hear about your progress.

[sharbear]

We are registered with an agency, but yes we are networking quite a bit on our own too. We've passed the word along to all family and friends, and made "business" cards and flyers that we're posting in coffee shops, restaurants and various other places. So far, not much response, but it's only been since the middle of December, so we're trying to stay patient.

How long did it take until you got the agency's call? What transpired during your presentation to the birthmom? I am very curious as to what we might go through!

Shar

[pbear]

Hi Soccermom!

I know we have chatted in the chat room!!! Congratulations on becoming a BC!!!

DH and I got a wonderful New Year's gift! a 7lb boy!! We got the call from our agency on Jan 1st that there was a BM 45 minutes from us who was due any day. DS was born on Jan 13 and we brought him home Jan 15! He is great! dh and ds are both sleeping at the moment!

PBEAR

[sharbear]

Congratulations Pbear! I can feel your excitement!

Shar

[soccermom]

WOW Pbear CONGRATS!! : I am thrilled for you!!! Where you there for the birth? What did you name him (you can pm me that if you want) WHat a wonderful New Year. Your baby found his way to you. Congrats again.

[soccermom]

Originally Posted by sharbear

We are registered with an agency, but yes we are networking quite a bit on our own too. We've passed the word along to all family and friends, and made "business" cards and flyers that we're posting in coffee shops, restaurants and various other places. So far, not much response, but it's only been since the middle of December, so we're trying to stay patient.

How long did it take until you got the agency's call? What transpired during your presentation to the birthmom? I am very curious as to what we might go through!

Shar

Shar,
The waiting is by far the hardest part. We had actually gone through the process to adopt through the statewide adoption network, were chosen and then decided to turn it down (Tons of extraneous and not so good variables) We took a break from the whole adoption stuff and researched other agencies. We chose one and the social worker came to our house to update our homestudy and then asked if we wanted to be presented- so it was a very quick process with the agency, but it took us 12 months when you take into account all of the trainings, etc that we had to complete. Dd was so meant to be ours, I truly believe that. I know it is hard, but keep telling yourself that you are a mom, your baby just has not found you yet. As I told myself, the question is not if, but when.

[Gemma]

Hiya Soccermum. It's good to know that there are people who understand the experiences and decisions we've all made to get here.

Shar - wishing you loads of luck. The process here in the UK is very sllllllooooow indeed. We are waiting to start our prep course and home visits and have no idea when our SW will point her boney finger at us and say "YOU". So frustrating. We've been waiting so long for a child and I just want to get on with it.

pbear - huge congratulations!! What a lovely Christmas you must have had. Has it sunk in now?

Hi to all

Gem x

[rjc0704]

Hi everyone. I'm so glad I found this board!

My DH are in a shared risk donor egg program and have had two out of 6 possible cycles fail so far. We do get 100% $$ back after it's over if we don't deliver a baby. At that point - maybe even sooner - we plan to seek adoption. My DH is adopted and we've always had to the desire to give back what was given to him. But is is possilbe for us?

At first, I didn't think the costs would be feasible for us to even consider adoption- either domestic or internationally. But it may not be as far out of reach as expected. I do worry about being 42 and if I would even be considered - and how long it will take. We would love an infant, but would be just as estatic with pre-school or young children...even siblings if we could afford the adoption costs.

We can't seem to get a real grasp on costs either - and we don't want to get so far into the process and then realize we don't have the resources to complete it.

I'm so afraid that God is closing every door to this desire to be parents. First I had to mourn the loss of my own eggs....now donor eggs. I'm so afraid of adoption failure too! But I just can't seem to let go.

Is there a good place to start for real help? It seems everyone wants money just to talk to us!
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