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Any updates for the New Year?
Any one have any thing new to update us for the new year?
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"Where your pleasure is, there is your treasure; Where your treasure, there your heart; where your heart, there your happiness" Augustine |
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Hi Everyone
I am new, although not new to FT. We completed our homestudy and final paperwork at our agency about a month ago, so now we are in the waiting period for a domestic adoption. We are excited; DH's bro & his wife gave us a lot of their baby stuff (highchair, etc...), we bought a neighbor's crib/changing table set, and we just painted the baby's room (pale lilac to suit either a boy or girl) so we're pretty much set - just need a baby to use it all.
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Hi Gigih,
Thanks The average wait time for our agency is 6 months - a year. We're doing a lot of networking ourselves also, so hopefully it will cut down on the time. In the meantime we're keeping busy and telling ourselves to enjoy the free time to do what we want when we want while we are baby free. ![]() What is your situation? Shar |
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Arizona
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Definitely enjoy your alone time while you have it. Once that little one arrives every thing changes very quickly!
DH and I adopted our son, Ben, via domestic infant adoption. Ben just turned one on New Year's Eve. We will probably start looking for a sibling at the beginning of next year so that they are at a minimum two years apart. It was a tough journey to get Ben, but so very much worth it. We had three matches fall through and we turned down a match all within about four months and then we were told about Ben and he was born a week later! We flew to Tennessee to meet him and his bmom the day he was born and have been happy and exhausted parents every since. I look forward to sharing in your story as it unfolds. |
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Thanks Gigi,
I look forward to sharing also. I am curious as to how you found out about Ben since we was born in a different state. Did you post on ParentProfiles? Perhaps a relative who lives in TN told you about Ben's bm? Sharon |
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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We went through a national adoption agency when we adopted Ben. They advertise in all states so we were matched with someone in NY, two in FL and with Ben in TN. It was more costly, but at the time DH and I were both working and traveling, so it was just easier not to have to do a search on our own.
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It's going to be a long and frustrating year for me and DH I think. We've had our initial home visit and got the green light to go on the waiting list for prep course and home study but places are given depending on children coming up and not on a "who's been waiting longest" scenario (which I really accept). My main frustration is not knowing how long we'll be waiting. Once we get onto the next stage it will still be 8 months before panel and then matching will take however long that takes. I doubt that we will have our child in 2009. The frustration is starting to drive me nuts.
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History: TTC 15 years. We have loved and lost 10 beautiful babies and sadly have no LC. We have chosen now to build our family though adoption. 3rd Dec 09 we have been approved to adopt 1-2 children aged 0-4 years!! 29 Dec 09 matched with a 2 year old girl and her newborn brother! We meet our daughter on 5th March!!!
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