Been here before, but a new question:
My husband is 53 years old, and I am 35 years old, we have been married for 8 years.
We do not have any biological children of our own. We have been through alot of infertility issues, and "wasted" precious time.
We are thinking about 1 child, may consider a sibling group. We are open to either gender and age ranges from infant to maybe 10 years.
I know his age is a huge factor, as we have been turned down several times already.
Anybody got ideas about where to look with him being 53?
Agencies seem to think he's "too old"
We seem to have our heart set on Bulgaria.
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03-24-2009, 04:36 PM #1cindyrella25Registered Userhas no status.
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Adopting over 50? X-PostMe (40) DH (59) CJ the cat
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Seems like 55 is the upper limit from what I can find...
also Holt is a large well reputed agency and 55 is their upper limit.
Good luck!Not all who wander are lost.
06-21-2009, 10:48 PM #3
It seems important to keep alert for countries with recent adoption law changes (some places initiate adoption restrictions at certain ages, while others make changes that make adoptions easier).
Anyway, all the best with you adoption search!
06-22-2009, 12:46 PM #4law511Registered Userhas no status.
I recently went to the foster/adopt information meeting for social services in my area and they have no age limit. I believe this is the norm. If you are open to an older child, or a sibling group, that would be a definite option for you. Best of luck to you.LORI
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03-02-2010, 09:30 AM #5Homeschool-momRegistered Userhas no status.
Also consider the Ukraine
You can certainly adopt internationally, especially since you are in your thirties. The only requirement about adopting from the Ukraine is that you be no more than 45 years older than the child you plan to adopt, and if only one parent is eligible, then the adoption can be completed in the eligible parent's name only.
Plus, you can adopt a child without using an agency, which could save you a few thousand dollars. You can learn about it here: International Ukraine Adoption - How to Pursue a Ukraine Adoption Without an Agency
Also, you can pursue a private domestic adoption if you know the birth mom. That was our case with our youngest child. I was 45 and my husband was 55, but because the birth mom knew us, she contacted us when our youngest was born. It wouldn't hurt to put the word out, that you are interested if a child should become available.
The thing with private adoptions is they usually come about by someone knowing someone, who knows someone else. My opinion is an adoption from the Ukraine would be faster, but you never know.
Good luck! It's definitely worth it. Children make you feel young!
12-23-2011, 02:56 AM #6sumlocks123Registered Userhas no status.
Adopting over 50? X-Post
Great post, although I would also note that adding word restriction to your comments might backfire. I understand wanting to cut down on spam, but it also adds another barrier for the commenter, and I think it's more beneficial to make commenting as easy as possible.
06-10-2012, 09:45 PM #7
I adopted as a 51 year old single woman. I'm now 66 with a 16 year old, and still having fun. Back when I adopted, China was open to older, single women for NSN children.
While China is no longer as welcoming to singles, its special needs program sometimes allows one spouse in a marriage to be 55, especially if it is clear that the family will be able to function economically if the older spouse should pass away.
Russia has always been open to older parents, and many agencies will accept a healthy 55 year old man if his spouse is younger and if the financial picture is good.
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